"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What to say BEFORE the kiss?!?

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I have heard this too many times in the past few months, so i am going to post it and see if the people i know are the only one's with this problem...

My friends come up to me and ask me the following:

What must i speak/say to her JUST before i pull into her?

An example of one of these senario's was that my friend Marc was sitting on the beach with his chick and she was lying on him and they were both looking into the sea while watching the sunset. Now this is a perfect location for that kiss, but then he told me that before he wanted to kiss her he never knew what to talk about with her or what to say JUST before he pulled her.

My answer to hims was:

Me: Just speak to her about anything or continue to speak to her about what you were talking to her about, nothing has to "change"

Him: Well i dont think that i should pull her while we are talking about how irritating her kid sister is

Me: well then make sure that you are talking about something more on the "romantic" side of things such as how much you mean to eachother or taking her on a romantic holiday soon etc

Him: But like... is there not anything that i should say that 1 second before i pull her? because i keep on feeling wierd when i am just about to pull her, i get the feeling that my timing is going to be bad! is this normal?

Me: Stop thinking about all that, she isnt going to see it as anything bad if you kiss her afetr saying something or not, so stop worrying and just kiss her without thinking about all this sh!t

Him: ok... well... what if she isnt expecting it?

Me: 1st of all, who sais she HAS to expect it? actually, alot of chix like being kissed by suprise.. and 2ndly if the 2 of you are cuddling on the beach like that, she SHOULD be expecting it, so now please stop worrying so much about all the distractions, get all those doughbts out of your head, and KISS HER D@MNNIT!

Him: You know what, you're right, i'll just kiss her and i wont CARE about anything else! F*ck timing, if we are in that position then i CANT go wrong.. thanx man.

Me: No problem.. now go do your thing;)


Thats just with one of my friends.... I'm just wondering if any of you have had this kind of problem, or anything similar. so.. have you? :rolleyes:

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If i know that the girl wants me to kiss her then i will do one of the following (which ever is more natural at the time):

-You can just get eye contact, smile slightly and lean in and kiss. You don't have to say anything, sometimes it's not needed.

-I sometimes say (when i know she wants to kiss) "come here", or "come here a sec", which will get her to move closer to you, then you just get the EC and lean in.

-I say "I'm trying really hard not to kiss you right now", then lean in, she should lean in too.
 
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thanx for that?

SuperFlex: nice. And thanx for the advise, but i was asking if anyone has had this problem or anything similar to it, i wasnt asking for advise;) But thanx anyways.
 
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Oh sorry, miss read the question.

No.
 
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The problem with frinds asking those questions? Or being in the position of your friend?

Ill answer both. No and no. But if i did, id tell him to just hug her and get cheek to cheek. You dont have to say anything. Just give her two pecks...one by the cheek bone and the other closer (in a straight line as if leading to her lips) to her lips. She will lean her face towards yours and thats it
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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nothing.
 
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What to say after a first kiss: "Well spank my ass and call me a b*tch, you really do like me!" :D Wish I could remember where that was from.
 
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"I hope you flossed!"
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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^^Serioulsy just look stare into her eyes and say the most random thing you can think of.

"I lost 20 pounds with the Atkins diet".

She'll laugh and think it's cute.
 
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Originally posted by Tha Realnezz
^^Serioulsy just look stare into her eyes and say the most random thing you can think of.

"I lost 20 pounds with the Atkins diet".

She'll laugh and think it's cute.
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"Your mother sucks in bed"

"Oh R3N3GAD3, hee hee"
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by SuperFlex
If i know that the girl wants me to kiss her then i will do one of the following (which ever is more natural at the time):

-You can just get eye contact, smile slightly and lean in and kiss. You don't have to say anything, sometimes it's not needed.

-I sometimes say (when i know she wants to kiss) "come here", or "come here a sec", which will get her to move closer to you, then you just get the EC and lean in.

-I say "I'm trying really hard not to kiss you right now", then lean in, she should lean in too.
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Those are good. I usually do the first one, but the second one is good too.
 
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