"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What to say BEFORE the kiss?!?

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I have heard this too many times in the past few months, so i am going to post it and see if the people i know are the only one's with this problem...

My friends come up to me and ask me the following:

What must i speak/say to her JUST before i pull into her?

An example of one of these senario's was that my friend Marc was sitting on the beach with his chick and she was lying on him and they were both looking into the sea while watching the sunset. Now this is a perfect location for that kiss, but then he told me that before he wanted to kiss her he never knew what to talk about with her or what to say JUST before he pulled her.

My answer to hims was:

Me: Just speak to her about anything or continue to speak to her about what you were talking to her about, nothing has to "change"

Him: Well i dont think that i should pull her while we are talking about how irritating her kid sister is

Me: well then make sure that you are talking about something more on the "romantic" side of things such as how much you mean to eachother or taking her on a romantic holiday soon etc

Him: But like... is there not anything that i should say that 1 second before i pull her? because i keep on feeling wierd when i am just about to pull her, i get the feeling that my timing is going to be bad! is this normal?

Me: Stop thinking about all that, she isnt going to see it as anything bad if you kiss her afetr saying something or not, so stop worrying and just kiss her without thinking about all this sh!t

Him: ok... well... what if she isnt expecting it?

Me: 1st of all, who sais she HAS to expect it? actually, alot of chix like being kissed by suprise.. and 2ndly if the 2 of you are cuddling on the beach like that, she SHOULD be expecting it, so now please stop worrying so much about all the distractions, get all those doughbts out of your head, and KISS HER D@MNNIT!

Him: You know what, you're right, i'll just kiss her and i wont CARE about anything else! F*ck timing, if we are in that position then i CANT go wrong.. thanx man.

Me: No problem.. now go do your thing;)


Thats just with one of my friends.... I'm just wondering if any of you have had this kind of problem, or anything similar. so.. have you? :rolleyes:

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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If i know that the girl wants me to kiss her then i will do one of the following (which ever is more natural at the time):

-You can just get eye contact, smile slightly and lean in and kiss. You don't have to say anything, sometimes it's not needed.

-I sometimes say (when i know she wants to kiss) "come here", or "come here a sec", which will get her to move closer to you, then you just get the EC and lean in.

-I say "I'm trying really hard not to kiss you right now", then lean in, she should lean in too.
 
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thanx for that?

SuperFlex: nice. And thanx for the advise, but i was asking if anyone has had this problem or anything similar to it, i wasnt asking for advise;) But thanx anyways.
 
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Oh sorry, miss read the question.

No.
 
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The problem with frinds asking those questions? Or being in the position of your friend?

Ill answer both. No and no. But if i did, id tell him to just hug her and get cheek to cheek. You dont have to say anything. Just give her two pecks...one by the cheek bone and the other closer (in a straight line as if leading to her lips) to her lips. She will lean her face towards yours and thats it
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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nothing.
 
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What to say after a first kiss: "Well spank my ass and call me a b*tch, you really do like me!" :D Wish I could remember where that was from.
 
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"I hope you flossed!"
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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^^Serioulsy just look stare into her eyes and say the most random thing you can think of.

"I lost 20 pounds with the Atkins diet".

She'll laugh and think it's cute.
 
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Originally posted by Tha Realnezz
^^Serioulsy just look stare into her eyes and say the most random thing you can think of.

"I lost 20 pounds with the Atkins diet".

She'll laugh and think it's cute.
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"Your mother sucks in bed"

"Oh R3N3GAD3, hee hee"
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Originally posted by SuperFlex
If i know that the girl wants me to kiss her then i will do one of the following (which ever is more natural at the time):

-You can just get eye contact, smile slightly and lean in and kiss. You don't have to say anything, sometimes it's not needed.

-I sometimes say (when i know she wants to kiss) "come here", or "come here a sec", which will get her to move closer to you, then you just get the EC and lean in.

-I say "I'm trying really hard not to kiss you right now", then lean in, she should lean in too.
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Those are good. I usually do the first one, but the second one is good too.
 
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