What to focus on in the coming year?

[corrector]

In my youth I got involved with a Oijah board group,I also had something similar happen,so I don't dispute you....

It's unfair with me though. I didn't sign up for that. I just wanted to deal with a woman.

 

[Gamisch]

It's unfair with me though. I didn't sign up for that. I just wanted to deal with a woman.

That's the whole lesson!!!!!

Over and over and over again. Just saw a video of a man with a good job getting arrested due to not paying child support. He's like "how can I make money if I'm incarcerated " ??.

No one cares...this js the prize you'll pay for "just wanna be with a woman ".

OP must learn that prostitution is called the oldest profession in the world for a reason: men wanna feck and women wannan secure worldly possessions. Period.

The next generation exists out of guys who never been with a woman in a relationship other than prostitution. Zero girlfriends, yet a notch count above the 200 ,s.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

I'm not some nerdy virgin skinnyfat leftist beta loser who doesn't lift; I'm a based, reasonably attractive, cool, jacked, bass player in a rock n roll band.

If chicks are telling you they'd have sex with you if you'd lose weight, YOU ARE NOT JACKED.

More attractive men in GREAT shape have trouble getting with women too.

Yes, you are frustrated but I believe that you're not seeing things objectively. If the market does not want what you're seeing - whatever that may be - you change the features of the product you're selling. Its simple logic. Many here have suggested improvement for you over the last several months, you have threads that are 20 pages plus on this subject here.

Are you maxxed in all categories? If not, do not navel gaze about this - the past is the past - this is now. Asking the same question repeatedly is not going to change the answers. You need to wake up to this reality.

You are not getting the results you want, so what do you do? YOU IMPROVE YOUR FUNDAMENTALS.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Reminder: talk of religion is explicitly forbidden on the forum.

Please cease and desist.

Yeah. I told you demons don't like Christians barging into their operations and taking advantage of their women. You are not a Christian so the demons of the escorts will not mess around with you. They know who they want to attack. If the demons attacked everybody, the same way they attacked me, then the escorts would be out of business overnight and nobody would visit one again. Ever.

Indeed, the escort, I dealt with back in Dec 5, 2014, is like the high priestess of the succubus whose incantation is made by giving her an offering of money, and the intimacy with the escort consumates the exchange of money. @BergischerLöwe is correct about what he said about escorts. You are not just paying her money. You are bowing to the devil and to Mammon, the god of money, in partaking of her services and the demons enabling her. It tormented me that I bowed to something evil in order to access this women. It was not about the physical money, but the spiritual aspect behind the whole thing.

Mammon - Wikipedia

en.wikipedia.org

Succubus - Wikipedia

en.wikipedia.org

An unholy exchange between both the Mammon and the Succubus.

@BergischerLöwe says he's admitting defeat. He's not admitting defeat, he is bowing to something figuratively, by using an escort, and could be the defeat he is really talking about, but does not have the articulation to express the spiritual side of that and may errounously believe its a matter of ego. It is best he keeps his money and his mind as well for both can be compromised in the pursuit of pleasure in this way.

 

[corrector]

Reminder: talk of religion is explicitly forbidden on the forum.

Please cease and desist.

@MatureDJ provoked me by calling me a witchdoctor. That post was in reply to that. Attacking other users and calling them names is also against forum rules. He should be warned too if that is the case.

 

[Serenity]

@MatureDJ provoked me by calling me a witchdoctor. That post was in reply to that. Attacking other users and calling them names is also against forum rules. He should be warned too if that is the case.

While you have a point, there's also this part in bold text in the forum rules. Claiming provocation is not a valid defense.

• Please do not reply to insulting, harassing, or disrespectful posts from another member -- this simply escalates the problem. Contact a moderator who will review the offending message and take the appropriate action.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

@MatureDJ provoked me by calling me a witchdoctor. That post was in reply to that. Attacking other users and calling them names is also against forum rules. He should be warned too if that is the case.

While I cannot speak for @MatureDJ I’m convinced it was in jest, I have removed his post in an effort to promote conviviality on the forum.

I’m guilty of allowing myself to be “triggered” in the past, but I realized that in the ensuing mud-slinging contest I was as much to blame for it as the other/s.

Most of the back and forth here is not meant to be mean, it’s just banter between men and posturing - if we removed every post in which guys are giving each other nuggies we would have no forum.

 

[Ricky]

British cycling team focused on one percent improvements
You do the same

This Coach Improved Every Tiny Thing by 1 Percent and Here’s What Happened

Discover the power of small wins and slow gains.

jamesclear.com

Let's make a list of little improvements

 

[MatureDJ]

@MatureDJ provoked me by calling me a witchdoctor. That post was in reply to that. Attacking other users and calling them names is also against forum rules. He should be warned too if that is the case.

Now you know I wasn't calling you a witch doctor - just making a bit of sport with your comment of "spirits" that you had profferred when EscortMaxxing or OnlyFansMaxxing (and knowing that you have Caribbean heritage).

 

[MatureDJ]

That's the whole lesson!!!!!

Over and over and over again. Just saw a video of a man with a good job getting arrested due to not paying child support. He's like "how can I make money if I'm incarcerated " ??.

No one cares...this js the prize you'll pay for "just wanna be with a woman ".

OP must learn that prostitution is called the oldest profession in the world for a reason: men wanna feck and women wannan secure worldly possessions. Period.

The next generation exists out of guys who never been with a woman in a relationship other than prostitution. Zero girlfriends, yet a notch count above the 200 ,s.

Marriage itself between a man of higher wealth (which is the majority of the time) is just a form of long-term prostitution. The meme of normies having to spend money & effort at getting into the Beta queue, while Chad jumps to the head of the line and getting it for free, is in line with the meme of prostitution.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

How can I spam approach if I can't bring myself to approach in the first place?

Grow a pair or kindly **** off

 

[corrector]

The meme of normies having to spend money & effort at getting into the Beta queue,

You mean self-improvement?

 

[BergischerLöwe]

Well, gents, as of a week ago my dry spell is OVER. Just as I was giving up on dating apps, by chance I matched with a girl on there who has a lot in common with me and we hit it off, then the day before Christmas eve I went to see her and the rest is history. Then earlier today I met up with her and once again I fcked her. So far I quite like this girl and we have similar interests and get along well. Obviously I shouldn't get too attached to one girl early on, but I definitely intend to keep seeing her. Unlike most of the women I've met thru apps, with this one I don't feel like I'm settling. As I've said I get along with her well, and she's very cute too. So I'm gonna see where this goes.

It just feels kinda odd to me to finally be having sex with someone again after not having any since October 2019. Surprisingly I've actually done pretty well on the performance side of things despite the length of dry spell I endured. I've been able to bang this girl for like an hour each time and get her off easily, but one problem I keep having now is that so far I've been unable to climax from the actual sex itself. I would assume all these years of the dry spell and jerking off have caused this. What would I need to do to solve this problem? Just stop jerking off for a while? I'm sure some of you have encountered the same issue.

Furthermore I apologize for being so dramatic and negative in some of my earlier posts. I guess in some respects my situation wasn't as dire as it appeared. Perhaps sometimes in these threads I've let my frustrations and emotions get the best of me and it's reflected in my writing.

 

[corrector]

Apologies if in this paragraph I've been too vulgar or revealed too much information.

You should edit your post.

 

[BergischerLöwe]

You should edit your post.

How should I edit it? In that paragraph just wanted to know if anyone has had this same issue I've described. I've seen guys be far more graphic in their writing on here but I just wanted to apologize for the vulgarity of my words just in case

 

[corrector]

How should I edit it? In that paragraph just wanted to know if anyone has had this same issue I've described. I've seen guys be far more graphic in their writing on here but I just wanted to apologize for the vulgarity of my words just in case

I mean, why write something and apologize for it? You should either delete the vulgar words or delete the apology but not put both. It's just confusing.

 

[BergischerLöwe]

I mean, why write something and apologize for it? You should either delete the vulgar words or delete the apology but not put both. It's just confusing.

I see

 

[corrector]

Congrats on fulfilling your goals. Hope you get at least 9 months out of it (the time when either one or both parties will start getting bored once the novelty and honeymoon has lapsed). You have always been a negative arguement for dating apps, but with this recent post, I guess it at least shows that if someone doesn't give up then they can occasionally get someone.

You are talking from a different state of mind right now so you'll see everything you wrote in a different light. However, that dry-spell was quite real with you and at least shows some sort of psychological state before and after. That is what it is, and I don't think there is a need to apologize for what is a real experience.

Just like you see me writing negative posts (ie at least with "civvie/non-escort" women), because I've been in a decade long dry-spell, and I'm also seeing allot of things crumbling around that makes me feel doomed. However, if I won a big lottery, or connected nicely with a girl, then that would likely reframe my posts as well. There is probably only one positive, but short-lived "civvie/non-escort woman" post made this year by me.

But, its good that you found some satisfaction and have at least for the moment, reframed your past thoughts and perhaps vindicated yourself from some of the more negative reactions and posts that others have made about you here. You eventually found what you were looking for without cold-approaching, Gym-maxxing, going to another country, or some of these extreme means and just simply staying the course and not giving, you were able to touch wood.

It's a decent ending for this type of thread. Perhaps your frustrations and negative energies you expressed on this thread is part that karma that brought her to you. In other words, if you never made this thread, or experienced those lows and posted about it here, then you may never have met her. It's not a matter of luck, it might be your karma. (ie cause and effect).

For what it's worth, I made an odd thread under an old alias Luke Skywalker that was titled "Quest to get a gf or wife before Dec 21, 2012", and made that thread up back in 2007/2008 sometime. Wouldn't you know, just as I was about to give-up on a Christian dating website, I met a girl from there by chance near the end of February, 2012, and met her on March 10, 2012 and we just hit it off. Sometimes you write a thread and it results in a lucky-moment. Good this one had a happy ending.

 

[BergischerLöwe]

Congrats on fulfilling your goals. Hope you get at least 9 months out of it (the time when either one or both parties will start getting bored once the novelty and honeymoon has lapsed). You have always been a negative arguement for dating apps, but with this recent post, I guess it at least shows that if someone doesn't give up then they can occasionally get someone.

You are talking from a different state of mind right now so you'll see everything you wrote in a different light. However, that dry-spell was quite real with you and at least shows some sort of psychological state before and after. That is what it is, and I don't think there is a need to apologize for what is a real experience.

Just like you see me writing negative posts (ie at least with "civvie/non-escort" women), because I've been in a decade long dry-spell, and I'm also seeing allot of things crumbling around that makes me feel doomed. However, if I won a big lottery, or connected nicely with a girl, then that would likely reframe my posts as well. There is probably only one positive, but short-lived "civvie/non-escort woman" post made this year by me.

But, its good that you found some satisfaction and have at least for the moment, reframed your past thoughts and perhaps vindicated yourself from some of the more negative reactions and posts that others have made about you here. You eventually found what you were looking for without cold-approaching, Gym-maxxing, going to another country, or some of these extreme means and just simply staying the course and not giving, you were able to touch wood.

It's a decent ending for this type of thread. Perhaps your frustrations and negative energies you expressed on this thread is part that karma that brought her to you. In other words, if you never made this thread, or experienced those lows and posted about it here, then you may never have met her. It's not a matter of luck, it might be your karma. (ie cause and effect).

For what it's worth, I made an odd thread under an old alias Luke Skywalker that was titled "Quest to get a gf or wife before Dec 21, 2012", and made that thread up back in 2007/2008 sometime. Wouldn't you know, just as I was about to give-up on a Christian dating website, I met a girl from there by chance near the end of February, 2012, and met her on March 10, 2012 and we just hit it off. Sometimes you write a thread and it results in a lucky-moment. Good this one had a happy ending.

Yeah after this having happened I'm certainly seeing everything from a different state of mind. These recent events have given me an emotional state less clouded by my feelings of despair and frustration surrounding my perceived inability to meet women that plagued me during the dry spell. I think a big problem with meeting women that was causing my dry spell has to do with the sort of guy I am anyway. I'm a niche guy with less mainstream interests and a less conventional look, so naturally the pool of women to which I appeal will always be far smaller. Thus on the apps, the women who would actually be interested in me are fewer and further between. It seems that the women who actually are into me are the ones who also like rock n roll and stuff like that. This girl I've recently started seeing certainly fits this description; she shares the same musical tastes as me and even plays the same instruments that I do. Women like this seem to be the "type" I attract, and the issue has been that there's less women like that out there and meeting any like that on apps ultimately comes down to luck. So for future reference, if I wanted to meet more women fitting this description, a better way to go about doing it than the apps would be to just hang out in spaces where such women are likely to hang out. Thus in that way my chances of meeting someone would be increased. But for now as I've said I'm gonna keep seeing this woman I've mentioned. She genuinely has redeeming qualities about her, I'm attracted to her physically, and so far I haven't noticed anything about her that I would deem questionable or objectionable. Really now my biggest concern is solving the problem I mentioned in the second paragraph of the post that talks about the dry spell ending.