"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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so this girl I used to hook up w/ haven't talked to her in about 7 months, since I started a new job and went back to school. Well, I am home over break and wanted to give her a call, unfortunately her # changed, so I looked her up on the college directory, and was able to get her new#. I feel weird having to look up her number on a college directory and give her a call.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Is this her cell number that changed? If it is her house/land line that changed, just call her up, and make no mention of it. Either way, just call her up, without that apologetic feeling. Chances are she won't be up for hooking up, since it has been a long time, and it seems you and/or her have made no effort is getting in touch. Worth a try. Don't worry about how you got the number, that's the least of your troubles now.
 
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Most land lines will give the new number a few months after they've been changed.
 
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Gangster Of Love said:
Most land lines will give the new number a few months after they've been changed.
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this was her cellphone, it did not list her new number, I am not sure why she changed her phone number. I am a little nervous to call her.
 
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