"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What to do??

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Hey guys has anyone heard about this book that has become very popular, its called "He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys": By: Greg Behrendt,Liz Tuccillo. It was one of those damned books that Oprah pushed onto the world with her show. Its the writers from "Sex and the City".

http://www.usatoday.com/life/books/excerpts/2004-09-08-hes-just_x.htm

Anyways, this girl that I have been talking to is reading this book. She is now comparing me to every guy in the book and telling me my faults and why she thinks I'm not into her. What is he trying to pull here? It kinda upsets me that I'm being compared to some AFC in book that is probably made up. Is she just trying to justify her feeling of her not being into me that much?

What do you guys think? What should I say or do? I have been trying to come back with some ****y funny stuff, but had no luck.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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It's amusing and to be honest I'd rather women thought men weren't really in to them when in reality moves aren't made on most chicks because the guy is wary of asking a woman out because he thinks she's a stupid c*nt and will either blow him out, flake out on him or decide he isn't worth it for some stupid idiotic reason.

I think it's good this guy is convincing women it's because men aren't really that in to them if they don't make a move or ask them out - it makes us look a hell of a lot better and crushes the ego's of women who read that book.

Great!

The Muscly Jerk
 

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BADA-BING said:
Is she just trying to justify her feeling of her not being into me that much?
My guess is that she's trying to manipulate you into assuring her that you ARE into her, and into making more of an effort for her to prove it. Regardless, what she's doing is disrespectful to you; tell her to knock it off, and bail if she won't.
 

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Once she has you doing all that AFC crap she'll lose interest in you...
Don't know why God just had to make women assbackwards...
 

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BADA-BING said:
Hey guys has anyone heard about this book that has become very popular, its called "He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys": By: Greg Behrendt,Liz Tuccillo. It was one of those damned books that Oprah pushed onto the world with her show. Its the writers from "Sex and the City".

http://www.usatoday.com/life/books/excerpts/2004-09-08-hes-just_x.htm

Anyways, this girl that I have been talking to is reading this book. She is now comparing me to every guy in the book and telling me my faults and why she thinks I'm not into her. What is he trying to pull here? It kinda upsets me that I'm being compared to some AFC in book that is probably made up. Is she just trying to justify her feeling of her not being into me that much?

What do you guys think? What should I say or do? I have been trying to come back with some ****y funny stuff, but had no luck.
tell her that if she needs some book to understand you that your relationship really isn't heading in the direction you thought it would and that you think its time for some space.

when a woman starts ragging on you SHUT THAT SH*T DOWN.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'd spend more time with other women. Maybe then she'll realize you really AREN'T that into her and start trying to get you back.
 

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joekerr31 said:
tell her that if she needs some book to understand you that your relationship really isn't heading in the direction you thought it would and that you think its time for some space.

when a woman starts ragging on you SHUT THAT SH1T DOWN.
A1 advice. Plain, simple, effective.
 

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Man, when a girl is hot and I wanna keep her, I play the inverse turn. They needs to be trained, just like the family dog. So, here's what I do; I agree and apologize for treatin her so bad and agree to follow the book. Then, I stop doin other stuff I do for her cause I want to follow the book. I didn't read it so I don't know - you decide based on what she says about the book. So, I'd find something that I do reeeeeaaaalll good that she likes and I'd stop. Then I' point out, its not in the book. Man, I'd wear her out with that book. Like, she'd say why didn't you lick my xxxxx - I'd say its not in the book. I'd do it until she said, forget the book. :rock:

Man, sometimes you gots to use your brain instead of fear and abandonment. :yes: You won't get two other dogs cause your dog won't walk on a leash. :nono: You'd train that sucka. So, TRAIN YOUR WOMAN. :up:

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