What to do with this one?

[HiTtc]

Long story short, met a girl at work before Corona (but work at different departments so hardly see each other), we texted at a lot, but never got too a date. We almost did, but then some personal shvt happened and I ruined it. We stopped texting beginning September (me hardly replying because of shot confidence) and she texted me again last Monday, because I have a broken arm and she wanted to know what happened (saw it from a distance). I was getting over her but...

I responded like nothing happened, joyful and all, but I cut it short with late replies and so on. Ofc my mind is now going haywire. She didn't contact me again, but should I? I don't know what to do anymore. It's a heavy case of oneitis, and the response of spinning plates is of no option for at least months (logistical and medical).

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Chasing women never works.

 

[HiTtc]

Try using cricket game

Can you elaborate? Never heard of it

 

[bat soup]

Try to get her to meet up instead of this text bs. When you're alone with her, make a move. If she doesn't cooperate (excuses and so on) forget her and move on.

 

[Black Widow Void]

In order for me to join in and avoid responding with some lazy cliche'... you'll need to provide more specifics.

Sounds like you called off the first potential date.. is this right?
If so, how was her reaction?

You mentioned "shot confidence" but you don't explain how or why. Care to elaborate?

She reaches back out and you are short with her? Was there a reason for this reaction?

 

[HiTtc]

In order for me to join in and avoid responding with some lazy cliche'... you'll need to provide more specifics.

Sounds like you called off the first potential date.. is this right?
If so, how was her reaction?

You mentioned "shot confidence" but you don't explain how or why. Care to elaborate?

She reaches back out and you are short with her? Was there a reason for this reaction?

More elaborate story is here:

Might have hit rock bottom due to alcoholism, but don't get that click

This is just a rant, I have no respect for myself, I don't expect any of you either, I've become an absolute disgrace. My country went in lockdown beginning of March, that is where it all started to go wrong I think. That plus a girl. Was bored most of the time, so started drinking every day in...

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I didn’t call it off, we just never got to it because after a certain day, I lost all self esteem. Stopped texting like I use to do. She tried to reconnect afterwards, but I couldn’t anymore, even though I wanted.

 

[Black Widow Void]

The fact that she reached back out would serve as an indication that you had beaten yourself up more than you (so-called) "deserved."

If she was able to overlook your drunk text and later able to reach out and come back around ... it's possible that she could overlook your later avoidance of her. I say "possible" but I wouldn't get overly optimistic.

Your only option at this point seems to be ... to either drop it or give it another shot.

"Hey... I'm getting a bit stir crazy. How about you? I was thinking of going by ______ (insert place near by her area). I've been told that I'm much better company in person than over text. You should join me."

 

[Medina]

I would go over to her department and try to trigger some face-to-face attraction

Down the line she might start chasing you again and you MUST then ask her out