“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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What to do with something like this?

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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You: The same. Let's meet for a drink one night this week. Are you free Thursday or Friday night, 8 p.m?

Her: Bla bla bla Thursday

You: Cool, let's meet at XYZ, Thur, 8 p.m.

Her: Bla bla bla

You: Look forward. See you then
 

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RIchard is she cute?

if that's the case, this is extremely encouraging as I'm much much better looking than you are

I really need to hop on online dating
 

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Believe it or not Richard, you employed a highly savvy social technique:

She said, "Glad to hear it! Just working! What are you up to today?"
You responded, "Also working, just leaving now actually."

She texted you with exclamation points and a question to open the conversation. You responded with no exclamation, no question, and closed the convo. LOL.

You forced her to open you with another question or potentially lose you. It's the Russian Roulette of interest. Implicitly you communicated, "Show me high IL, or I won't bother."

She's sold. If you asked for the date, wait for a response.
 

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"Looking for a relationship" = anti-slut ("but yea i need to date, give a bj and ride the carousel to get there")

What was your opener to get the "Hi handsome", or did she msg you 1st?
 
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"Looking for a relationship" = anti-slut ("but yea i need to date, give a bj and ride the carousel to get there")

What was your opener to get the "Hi handsome", or did she msg you 1st?
This is Bumble. She messaged first.

And I think she was being honest with wanting a relationship, not just a hookup. I talked to her more on text. She said she already went through a hookup phase and was past that.

She even said she had been with someone who had a **** implant before. Apparently, I'm not the only bionic stud out there. No!!!
 

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This is Bumble. She messaged first.

And I think she was being honest with wanting a relationship, not just a hookup. I talked to her more on text. She said she already went through a hookup phase and was past that.

She even said she had been with someone who had a **** implant before. Apparently, I'm not the only bionic stud out there. No!!!
how could you ruin your **** with viagra if you werent popular among females at all? i mean why did you take viagra if the only sex you had you had to pay for LOL
 

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She likes you. Just keep talking to her and get to know her... I'm silently rooting for you
 
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how could you ruin your **** with viagra if you werent popular among females at all? i mean why did you take viagra if the only sex you had you had to pay for LOL
I'm just going to block you rather than waste any part of my day listening to you.

Join a gym. Got it. Thanks.
 

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No, she wanted a relationship, which is something that I'm unwilling to do.
Women will rarely tell you, hey I'm just here to svck every dck on Tinder.
Leave it to women to give it names and definitions.
All you need to do is take them out on dates and keep banging them until you or she doesn't want to anymore.
 

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This is Bumble. She messaged first.

And I think she was being honest with wanting a relationship, not just a hookup. I talked to her more on text. She said she already went through a hookup phase and was past that.

She even said she had been with someone who had a **** implant before. Apparently, I'm not the only bionic stud out there. No!!!
This is not SA. When you present yourself as a handsome stud, you automatically wear a black eye for being the pump-and-dump guy. And then you tell her you are looking for a hookup?? LOL.

Her: I'm looking for a relationship.
You: Same here. When are you free to meet for a drink?

KISS (for now).

Ask for the date.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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She is attracted to her own imagination at this very early point, which is based entirely on 2 or 3 pictures taken by a professional photographer utilizing a professional understanding of lighting, doctored skin complexion (and I suspect a slightly enlarged jaw as well) and extremely scant communication that is all but 4 or 5 one-line responses.

While I am not at all against utilizing techniques that maximize an online presence, there must be some kind of congruity between the man of initial presentation and the man on the date. OLD women most particularly fish for confirmations. When he sits down to have a drink with this woman, he will not have the benefit of professional lighting or doctored skin, and he will actually have to talk to her for 15-20 minutes, at least. At some point, he is going to have to convey a personality, good or bad. Richard has confided many times that he is unable to make a conversation go anywhere. Imagine that dry, boring text string that he posted going on for 20 minutes.... in real time. That will be enough to shatter any implied strengths he may be conveying right now.

My advice is only that he would do well to practice conveying some personality and establishing some kind of social/sexual bond before securing the date, at least for the time being. A woman who feels any such bond has developed will be a little more forgiving upon noticing the inevitable discrepancies that will undoubtingly arise between the OLD Richard and Richard IRL, will be less likely to flake and will help the date go smoother for him if he can achieve that.

But again, just my opinion. If he wants to go straight for the date, so be it.
Richard does not have the capability to build a solid rapport which serves him ... yet. The more he talks, the more he will talk his way out of the date.

What you state is correct insofar as his best shot on the date is with a solid rapport given his tweaked pics and weak social skills. My reply would be (Richard cover your ears now) is he will get blown out on the first 5-10 dates regardless of building solid rapport or not.

The hand that burns on the stove learns the harshest, but also learns the quickest. The goal (for now) is for Richard to learn how to get these women to the first date. Then he will learn how to carry convo on the date, followed by how to dominate with social acuity before, on, and after the date.

It's a learning process, which will take time. It begins with the date.
 

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Her: Looking for a relationship, how about you?
You: You been looking for that a long time? How's the search going?
 

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Richard, I didn't know you were on Bumble. Be more specific next time.

I've have experimented with every way possible including asking for the date in the first OLD message as well as building extensive rapport before the date. The most time efficient manner to mass-date in OLD is the following:

On OLD: Three messages, and ask for the number. Any fewer than three, you will lose some due to lack of rapport. Any more than three is time inefficient as there are thousands of others who will comply.

By Text: 3-4 texts and ask for the date. Any fewer than three, you will lose some due to lack of rapport. Any more than three is time inefficient as there are thousands of others who will comply.

The most time-efficient OLD template is as follows:

Ping-pong three messages. After her last response, wait at least 24 hours Then respond with, "I'm rarely on this thing. Give me your number. I will text you and maybe we can meet for a drink one night this week =)"

As follows (I'm in blue):

http://s682.photobucket.com/user/guru1000/media/IMG_3482_zpsl1yrkjom.png.html?sort=3&o=0

You don't need to wait a week to request her number or wait for her to double-text as I did. I was just busy. 24 hours. That's it.

Then onto the text.

Do not deviate from this straight-line template.

You have 18 days left to secure a first date who shows up. You will need me more than just getting to the first date. Trust me.
 

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My hope is that no one gets physically hurt in the process
 
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