What to do when your girlfriend starts losing interest in you?

[Scaramouche]

Dear Max,
A difficult situation,particularly for your Sons welfare...Give her a little credit for giving him a home,at least you are getting some svex,reflect that many Guys who consider themselves in a stable relationship are getting less ...At this stage do nothing rash,being so dependent on her you cannot afford that luxury,get your Employmant situation stabilized as first priority...In life you sometimes have to bide your time....Plenty of time to consider your options from a stronger position after you have a cash flow.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Get a side piece

 

[HaleyBaron]

Ive been with my girlfriend for 5 years now and she is starting to act like she doesnt care what I do anymore. She doesnt do the the caring things for me anymore either. She is starting to become aloof and she doesnt want sex much either. I can tell the interest is dropping big time. Is there anything I can do to get her interest back in me?

If I had a dime for everytime I heard this same story...

There's many ways to approach this, but I am going to assume that you have little self value and validate your existence on her being there. So that takes out the answer of "you shouldn't care what she thinks in the first place." Since you're a needy person, not to offend you, that means the solution you want is something that will magically make her into a loving caring girlfriend again. A magic button that will make all your problems go away. I can tell you to go get a magic genie and wish her back to that state. Or to hypnotize her and make her wear naked aprons while cooking the best dinner you ever had for the rest of your life. So many solutions that would fit the mold.

Or I can tell you my answer: you're going to have to swallow a hard pill. You likely know the answer yourself and came here to see if you could get away from it. But you can't. She isn't into you anymore. That's the truth. Be ready to pack it up one way or another. That or take a long vacation from her. Nothing rekindles a relationship more than a break apart.

 

[manfrombelow]

If I had a dime for everytime I heard this same story...

... You would hire Bill Gates to clean your toilet now?

 

[HaleyBaron]

... You would hire Bill Gates to clean your toilet now?

After the alimony his wife is going to get, his pocket gonna be hurting.

 

[HaleyBaron]

Man, this is the truth.

This will always be the answer to 'my girl is losing interest. What do I do?'

Im surprised this forum doesn't have a FAQ section for this kind of stuff.

 

[dark god]

Ive been with my girlfriend for 5 years now and she is starting to act like she doesnt care what I do anymore. She doesnt do the the caring things for me anymore either. She is starting to become aloof and she doesnt want sex much either. I can tell the interest is dropping big time. Is there anything I can do to get her interest back in me?

**** her sister

 

[dude99]

Ive been with my girlfriend for 5 years now and she is starting to act like she doesnt care what I do anymore. She doesnt do the the caring things for me anymore either. She is starting to become aloof and she doesnt want sex much either. I can tell the interest is dropping big time. Is there anything I can do to get her interest back in me?

Dump her.

You can't make someone care. You can't negotiate desire. You can't make someone "love you." They either willing do it or they don't. Trying to negotiate it will only end up with you being with a fake person or being in a fake relationship.

If they no longer care, you cut bait walk away and go date other people.

 

[dude99]

Ive noticed in the past week that she gets disgusted by things that I do that she didnt used to be disgusted by. I forgot to mention that 2 weeks ago she has told me to pull out during sex instead of going in her. Thats unusual for her. She has become really disagreeable this month as well. Have any of you experienced this before where your woman becomes grossed out by you? Thats the best way I can describe it. Why would she be feeling that way?

She is getting new attention and probably cheating or is going to very soon. She is beginning the monkey branch.

 

[corrector]

At least you've seen a gradual loss of interest before seeing the relationship come apart so you won't have eternal nostalgic feelings about the relationship, compared to a super-duper relationship, abrupt ending and great memories for a lifetime like a great movie!

 

[2Rocky]

Assuming you are going to do a Pre-emptive Breakup...

SO OP how are you going to make the split happen? Got some cash socked away to go get a place of your own? Consulted with a lawyer to draw up a shared custody parenting plan? Got a new Cell Phone number?

Basically you need to look at advice in Divorce forums. You are on the hook for Child support if you earn more than she does. There is NO escaping that. So don't try.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

If I had a dime for everytime I heard this same story...

There's many ways to approach this, but I am going to assume that you have little self value and validate your existence on her being there. So that takes out the answer of "you shouldn't care what she thinks in the first place." Since you're a needy person, not to offend you, that means the solution you want is something that will magically make her into a loving caring girlfriend again. A magic button that will make all your problems go away. I can tell you to go get a magic genie and wish her back to that state. Or to hypnotize her and make her wear naked aprons while cooking the best dinner you ever had for the rest of your life. So many solutions that would fit the mold.

Or I can tell you my answer: you're going to have to swallow a hard pill. You likely know the answer yourself and came here to see if you could get away from it. But you can't. She isn't into you anymore. That's the truth. Be ready to pack it up one way or another. That or take a long vacation from her. Nothing rekindles a relationship more than a break apart.

Another women reignites the flame even faster

 

[HaleyBaron]

Another women reignites the flame even faster

Very true. Anyone with a LTR will you tell you how annoyed their gf gets when she sees you with another woman, especially a prettier woman.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Very true. Anyone with a LTR will you tell you how annoyed their gf gets when she sees you with another woman, especially a prettier woman.

Your one that wasn't liking you anymore will be incredibly sexually charged after knowing that.

 

[HaleyBaron]

I got the receipt for that. I intentionally will talk up girls in the vicinity of the one Im currently out with just to keep her in check. She gets very touchy when we're alone. Works everytime on each girl.

 

[Foe]

Signs of loss of interest:

Lol I checked all of these and more on a exponential scale towards the end.