"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What to do when your beard starts turning gray?

MulteMach

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Do you avoid having face hair by shaving it or do you continue having a beard thats gray? Do women think gray hair beards are nasty or do the prefer that over a shaven face?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Solomon

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I've had women say they like it, it makes me look mature obviously you wanna make sure you're beard is kept up and trimmed regularly and not looking scraggly like a homeless bum
 

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When it was salt & pepper I kept it or at least touched it up with dye, but after it became fully white I went clean shaven.
 

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It really just depends. I will shave it if I'm going out, but I let it grow otherwise and gf likes it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I've watched quite a few beard videos where women rate guys with different looks, and they pretty consistently choose the guy with the stubble look or a short, well groomed beard. They rarely choose the clean shaven look, except for rare cases where the guy has an exceptionally handsome face, usually with a great jawline. But usually they prefer facial hair.

Agree with others that women like the salt and pepper look, so if it's just in the process of going gray, I wouldn't worry about it.

I recently saw a video where the guy made an observation I thought was interesting. He said that girls very consistently choose the stubble look, and yet that look is the exact one which causes so much pain and irritation on a girl's face when making out (I've experienced this myself). Let it grow in a little more and that doesn't occur. But it does seem odd that the look they like best is the one that is hardest to kiss.
 

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Interesting question, I believe it depends on your shape, masculinity and vibes.

A grey beard on a masculine guy gives him a more experienced rugged look while its a curse on a chubby guy that looks even older or weaker.
 

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But it does seem odd that the look they like best is the one that is hardest to kiss.
It’s not odd at all, they are rating the beard on aesthetics and not how it feels after all. A short beard/stubble looks best even on a handsome face with good jawline. It’s neat it’s tidy it’s masculine.

Im sprouting like 3-4 grey hairs in my beard and about 8-9 on my chest. I pluck them out as they are manageable.
 

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I have a few patches, I rock it. Women seem to like it.
 

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Most guys look 15 years older with a gray(ing) beard.

Unless your women like the grandpa-look, shave the hell outa your face.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The issue is it ages you out of dating younger 20ish women unless they have daddy issues. You can look young all the way into your 30's until your beard or hair starts to gray they it gives away your age. Anyone have any good techniques for coloring beards to make it look natural?
 

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This is something that you can't control
Its nature. Obviously you can dey your beard or shave it.

Meanwhile you focus on the things you do have control over;

- soundcheck your crib.

- make sure your finances are good.

-work out. Make sure you'll enter the 30/40 /50 league with a GREAT body

-to add to the last piont; make sure your style is oke /good/ even perfect. Your clothes amd cologne game should be on piont.

- and ofcourse internal things. Your work on Game , happiness and mental health should be a neverending process.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Dye. Professional beard dying is very pricey. Never trird it. Home dying needs to be done 3x week. There is also a beard pen that touches up nicely. I keep stubble. Use 3 setting on my electric.
 

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Also I'll say that a lot of women like the salt and pepper look as long as it's not overwhelming. But eyebrows? If they start lightening up, I think those are more important. I use Just For Men moustache touch-up kit once a month to keep my eyebrows matching my hair and most of my beard. It makes a difference to have strong, bolder looking eyebrows IMO.
 

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People really needs to stop worrying about this type of stuff. Losing hair...beard turning gray...so what? Embrace it. Own it. Stop being so insecure that you feel the need to change things that are out of your control to be accepted.

Accept yourself first because until you do that no matter how much you try to change for others to accept you they won't. Confidence and acceptance of yourself gets you acceptance from others as a side effect that no amount of hair coloring or hair transplanting will. Ironically without even trying.

You will be far more attractive to women with this mindset and attitude with less hair and a gray beard than you ever will be being insecure with a full head of hair and normal colored beard. Trust me on this one.

You think Sean Connery worried about his great beard and thinning hair? Fvck no. Women found him super attractive and charming regardless. Have that "it" factor about you and none of this other sh!t people worry about matters.
 

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I've watched quite a few beard videos where women rate guys with different looks, and they pretty consistently choose the guy with the stubble look or a short, well groomed beard. They rarely choose the clean shaven look, except for rare cases where the guy has an exceptionally handsome face, usually with a great jawline. But usually they prefer facial hair.

Agree with others that women like the salt and pepper look, so if it's just in the process of going gray, I wouldn't worry about it.

I recently saw a video where the guy made an observation I thought was interesting. He said that girls very consistently choose the stubble look, and yet that look is the exact one which causes so much pain and irritation on a girl's face when making out (I've experienced this myself). Let it grow in a little more and that doesn't occur. But it does seem odd that the look they like best is the one that is hardest to kiss.
You've been kissing guys with stubble again? Sorry you set me up for an easy one
 

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People really needs to stop worrying about this type of stuff. Losing hair...beard turning gray...so what? Embrace it. Own it. Stop being so insecure that you feel the need to change things that are out of your control to be accepted.

Accept yourself first because until you do that no matter how much you try to change for others to accept you they won't. Confidence and acceptance of yourself gets you acceptance from others as a side effect that no amount of hair coloring or hair transplanting will. Ironically without even trying.

You will be far more attractive to women with this mindset and attitude with less hair and a gray beard than you ever will be being insecure with a full head of hair and normal colored beard. Trust me on this one.

You think Sean Connery worried about his great beard and thinning hair? Fvck no. Women found him super attractive and charming regardless. Have that "it" factor about you and none of this other sh!t people worry about matters.
It's mostly so we can still date women in their early 20's. A guy in his 30's without gray hair still appears young to a 20 year old woman. A man in his 30's with graying hair starts to seem like an old guy to these women and that will limit your options in that age range. If you want to continue to have easy access to 20 year olds in your 30's you gotta keep the grays away.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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