"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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What to do when you really hurt her?

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Voice

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Man I'm in a bad situation. I was with this girl in my dorm, actually she lives right next to me, for like a month or so. We broke it off mostly because my interest level in her wasn't really that high. Anyway I told her we should just be friends. I still like her as a person, just not sexually. Anyway to make a long story short, I guess she still liked me and I said something really stupid to her that probably hurt her a lot. I was just kidding but I was like "eww it's Gabi" and then I ignored her. I actually thought it was funny and I was just messing around, wasn't serious at all. I guess she took it personally and she basically hates me now.

It's real awkward because she used to absolutely love me. Now she hates me with a passion. She blocked me on facebook and deleted all pictures of me on it. She even got her roommate to block me too. This may sound juvenile but I just don't want her to hate me. It's really bad because she's real popular with most of the girls in my dorm.

How do I fix this?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Give her some room for a couple days and then have a face to face talk with her. Start off with asking her how she feels about the entire situation and then just talk about it. Dont be an apoligetic b1tch but let her know that you werent thinking and is sorry for it.

If she doesnt forgive you after that then theres nothing else to do, just leave her be.
 
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Good advice, that's kinda what I was gonna do. Thanks
 
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Apologize duh! Don't be a b1tch about it though. Just let her know you were joking and you didn't intend to hurt her feelings
 
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