"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What to do when you really hurt her?

Voice

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Man I'm in a bad situation. I was with this girl in my dorm, actually she lives right next to me, for like a month or so. We broke it off mostly because my interest level in her wasn't really that high. Anyway I told her we should just be friends. I still like her as a person, just not sexually. Anyway to make a long story short, I guess she still liked me and I said something really stupid to her that probably hurt her a lot. I was just kidding but I was like "eww it's Gabi" and then I ignored her. I actually thought it was funny and I was just messing around, wasn't serious at all. I guess she took it personally and she basically hates me now.

It's real awkward because she used to absolutely love me. Now she hates me with a passion. She blocked me on facebook and deleted all pictures of me on it. She even got her roommate to block me too. This may sound juvenile but I just don't want her to hate me. It's really bad because she's real popular with most of the girls in my dorm.

How do I fix this?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Five To One

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Give her some room for a couple days and then have a face to face talk with her. Start off with asking her how she feels about the entire situation and then just talk about it. Dont be an apoligetic b1tch but let her know that you werent thinking and is sorry for it.

If she doesnt forgive you after that then theres nothing else to do, just leave her be.
 

Voice

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Good advice, that's kinda what I was gonna do. Thanks
 

BlakeW5

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Apologize duh! Don't be a b1tch about it though. Just let her know you were joking and you didn't intend to hurt her feelings
 
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