"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
what to do when she hates you
- Thread starter Yakovinho
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Try to find out why she hates you, make a note not to do it again anymore, and move on and ignore her. Approach lots of women and get over your shyness, and overall just be the best man you can be.Yakovinho said:what to do when the girl you like, hate you/dont have felling toward you?
Maybe you came off as creepy to her? That happened to me with the first girl I liked in high school.........
Oh, and find out who is great with women, try to be their friend, and hang out with them. Surrounding yourself with people who are good with women will help you get good yourself. David Deangelo (dating "guru") prolly became successful largely because of that fact alone.
I joined a fraternity filled with guys like that and they're really helping me out.
Something I've noticed when ignoring women is they will just come onto you even more. There's a chick I work with, things didn't turn out the way I would have liked. She started being a ***** basically, and after a few of the "trust and burn" cycles, I decided to just shut her out completely.
Of course, now I can't get rid of her. She's just waiting for the moment I break my silence and start talking to her, and the stronger I am, the more she's there, and just keeps coming, and coming....
Do chicks ever get a clue that you're through with them? And if they really DON'T like you, why do they keep trying to get your attention? Not every chick is a flat out attention *****. I wonder if at times there is more to it than that. Sometimes I wonder if there's a love/hate thing going on.
All I can think to do is just be aloof. If she speaks to me, I'm civil, but other than that, no time for her. This doesn't seem to be sinking in though.
Drama. Getting better at dealing with it, but it just bugs.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Themanthatcan
Senior Don Juan
(smiling of course)
Themanthatcan
Senior Don Juan
The Shocker
Senior Don Juan
To reset: it's all about getting what we can't have, when you remove the attention she was getting, she craves it more.
Abbott
Master Don Juan
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
RadRad
Don Juan
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
You should also, if your budget allows, get her a teddy bear and a box of chocolates.
Next, you tell her that you have been in love with her for the longest time and that you were just very nervous and scared when you feel she hates you and doesn't reciprocate the feelings.
MacDiddy
Master Don Juan
Don't tell this girl "I know you hate me" etc. You haven't even really said here what the deal is.
If a girl just doesn't like you, who freaking cares? Ignore her.
There's a good chance she's really shy and is waiting for you to talk to her. When I was in high school I had a few girls that absolutely despised me, and I couldn't figure out why... I never did anything mean to them. Then I see these girls a few years later and they're all over me. Often it's because they like you but they want you to do something about it. You don't approach them like they want, they're insecure, so they hate you for not giving them what they want: you.
Obviously the whole teddy bear chocolates thing is a joke. I could actually do something like that with the girl that keeps hanging around me, just to neutralize her. But then, that would make me feel like a wuss, even if it was pretend.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.