"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
what to do when she hates you
- Thread starter Yakovinho
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Try to find out why she hates you, make a note not to do it again anymore, and move on and ignore her. Approach lots of women and get over your shyness, and overall just be the best man you can be.Yakovinho said:what to do when the girl you like, hate you/dont have felling toward you?
Maybe you came off as creepy to her? That happened to me with the first girl I liked in high school.........
Oh, and find out who is great with women, try to be their friend, and hang out with them. Surrounding yourself with people who are good with women will help you get good yourself. David Deangelo (dating "guru") prolly became successful largely because of that fact alone.
I joined a fraternity filled with guys like that and they're really helping me out.
Something I've noticed when ignoring women is they will just come onto you even more. There's a chick I work with, things didn't turn out the way I would have liked. She started being a ***** basically, and after a few of the "trust and burn" cycles, I decided to just shut her out completely.
Of course, now I can't get rid of her. She's just waiting for the moment I break my silence and start talking to her, and the stronger I am, the more she's there, and just keeps coming, and coming....
Do chicks ever get a clue that you're through with them? And if they really DON'T like you, why do they keep trying to get your attention? Not every chick is a flat out attention *****. I wonder if at times there is more to it than that. Sometimes I wonder if there's a love/hate thing going on.
All I can think to do is just be aloof. If she speaks to me, I'm civil, but other than that, no time for her. This doesn't seem to be sinking in though.
Drama. Getting better at dealing with it, but it just bugs.
MightyMate
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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Themanthatcan
Senior Don Juan
(smiling of course)
Themanthatcan
Senior Don Juan
The Shocker
Senior Don Juan
To reset: it's all about getting what we can't have, when you remove the attention she was getting, she craves it more.
Abbott
Master Don Juan
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
RadRad
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Gangster Of Love
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You should also, if your budget allows, get her a teddy bear and a box of chocolates.
Next, you tell her that you have been in love with her for the longest time and that you were just very nervous and scared when you feel she hates you and doesn't reciprocate the feelings.
MacDiddy
Master Don Juan
Don't tell this girl "I know you hate me" etc. You haven't even really said here what the deal is.
If a girl just doesn't like you, who freaking cares? Ignore her.
There's a good chance she's really shy and is waiting for you to talk to her. When I was in high school I had a few girls that absolutely despised me, and I couldn't figure out why... I never did anything mean to them. Then I see these girls a few years later and they're all over me. Often it's because they like you but they want you to do something about it. You don't approach them like they want, they're insecure, so they hate you for not giving them what they want: you.
Obviously the whole teddy bear chocolates thing is a joke. I could actually do something like that with the girl that keeps hanging around me, just to neutralize her. But then, that would make me feel like a wuss, even if it was pretend.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.