I met a gorgeous woman about three weeks ago. We go and come back from work on the same bus and that's how I know her. We started talking a week ago. We don't talk anything flirty but regular things. Actually I asked her about weekend and asked her for a drinks. She's got a son of 15 and naturally she mentioned that. But she asked for my number and and we exchanged digits after a week of talking. I said I'll call her and we'll fix a time. I called her on saturday afternoon but she didn't pickup. I didn't call or text her since then. I know I'll meet her monday morning and possibly evening as well while waiting for the bus. But I have a plan of not meeting or calling her for the next few days. Should I call or text her? Or take a break for few days?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
What to do when she hasn't answered the first call?
- Thread starter rezaone
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
spiegel549
Senior Don Juan
When you called did you leave a message? Saying who it was, asking for her to call you back, leaving your number?
If you did, then just wait a few days and see what happens when you run into her.
If you just let it ring and hung up, call again in a day or 2 and LEAVE A MESSAGE saying "Hi its xyz, I would like to take you out for those drinks sometime this week, give me a call at 123-456-7890."
If you did, then just wait a few days and see what happens when you run into her.
If you just let it ring and hung up, call again in a day or 2 and LEAVE A MESSAGE saying "Hi its xyz, I would like to take you out for those drinks sometime this week, give me a call at 123-456-7890."
Dating
No I haven't left her a message coz she has my number. It was her who asked for the number and gave me a missed call then and there. Even she was asking me whether she spell my name correctly. And as I mentioned I see her everyday twice on bus and we sit by each other. So I'm not a mere stranger to her. I'm just confused.
No I haven't left her a message coz she has my number. It was her who asked for the number and gave me a missed call then and there. Even she was asking me whether she spell my name correctly. And as I mentioned I see her everyday twice on bus and we sit by each other. So I'm not a mere stranger to her. I'm just confused.
Harry Wilmington
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It's still a good idea to leave a message. For all she knows, you could've been butt-dialing her. And even if that's not true, at least by leaving a message you'll have no doubt in YOUR mind whether or not she knows you called.rezaone said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.