I met a gorgeous woman about three weeks ago. We go and come back from work on the same bus and that's how I know her. We started talking a week ago. We don't talk anything flirty but regular things. Actually I asked her about weekend and asked her for a drinks. She's got a son of 15 and naturally she mentioned that. But she asked for my number and and we exchanged digits after a week of talking. I said I'll call her and we'll fix a time. I called her on saturday afternoon but she didn't pickup. I didn't call or text her since then. I know I'll meet her monday morning and possibly evening as well while waiting for the bus. But I have a plan of not meeting or calling her for the next few days. Should I call or text her? Or take a break for few days?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
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What to do when she hasn't answered the first call?
- Thread starter rezaone
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
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spiegel549
Senior Don Juan
When you called did you leave a message? Saying who it was, asking for her to call you back, leaving your number?
If you did, then just wait a few days and see what happens when you run into her.
If you just let it ring and hung up, call again in a day or 2 and LEAVE A MESSAGE saying "Hi its xyz, I would like to take you out for those drinks sometime this week, give me a call at 123-456-7890."
If you did, then just wait a few days and see what happens when you run into her.
If you just let it ring and hung up, call again in a day or 2 and LEAVE A MESSAGE saying "Hi its xyz, I would like to take you out for those drinks sometime this week, give me a call at 123-456-7890."
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No I haven't left her a message coz she has my number. It was her who asked for the number and gave me a missed call then and there. Even she was asking me whether she spell my name correctly. And as I mentioned I see her everyday twice on bus and we sit by each other. So I'm not a mere stranger to her. I'm just confused.
No I haven't left her a message coz she has my number. It was her who asked for the number and gave me a missed call then and there. Even she was asking me whether she spell my name correctly. And as I mentioned I see her everyday twice on bus and we sit by each other. So I'm not a mere stranger to her. I'm just confused.
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It's still a good idea to leave a message. For all she knows, you could've been butt-dialing her. And even if that's not true, at least by leaving a message you'll have no doubt in YOUR mind whether or not she knows you called.rezaone said:
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.