"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What to do when her attention/attraction slips away?

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What to do when you like a girl who gives you attention but you have the feeling her attention/attraction is slipping slightly away? I start to feel less comfortable about myself at this point and want to turn around the bad feeling.

Any thoughts?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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LittleBigOne said:
What to do when you like a girl who gives you attention but you have the feeling her attention/attraction is slipping slightly away? I start to feel less comfortable about myself at this point and want to turn around the bad feeling.

Any thoughts?
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Are we talking about a girl you're dating or just some lady at the coffee shop who smiles at you?

If it's someone you're dating, and she's going cold, then you have to go colder.

And if it's someone you're NOT dating, then you need to grab your balls and ask her out before it turns completely cold.
 
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Women naturally do this coquettish behavior. You need to learn to withdraw and go NC until she comes to you. Even when she does, she is likely to be somewhat cold and aloof so don't jump right back in too soon.
 
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She is a colleague of my. In two weeks, during our holiday she comes over to my place. She is gonna cook for me (indonesion, where her roots are from). I am positive about that (as long she won´t flake).
The thing is, i want to keep my cool, but drag myself into negative feelings. I believe she knows i like her and she gives me attention regular but she is having a bf, where she speaks positive about, and i don´t want to get frustrated about that fact. So, how is the best way to behave?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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