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What to do when her attention/attraction slips away?

LittleBigOne

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What to do when you like a girl who gives you attention but you have the feeling her attention/attraction is slipping slightly away? I start to feel less comfortable about myself at this point and want to turn around the bad feeling.

Any thoughts?
 

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LittleBigOne said:
What to do when you like a girl who gives you attention but you have the feeling her attention/attraction is slipping slightly away? I start to feel less comfortable about myself at this point and want to turn around the bad feeling.

Any thoughts?

Are we talking about a girl you're dating or just some lady at the coffee shop who smiles at you?

If it's someone you're dating, and she's going cold, then you have to go colder.

And if it's someone you're NOT dating, then you need to grab your balls and ask her out before it turns completely cold.
 

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Women naturally do this coquettish behavior. You need to learn to withdraw and go NC until she comes to you. Even when she does, she is likely to be somewhat cold and aloof so don't jump right back in too soon.
 

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She is a colleague of my. In two weeks, during our holiday she comes over to my place. She is gonna cook for me (indonesion, where her roots are from). I am positive about that (as long she won´t flake).
The thing is, i want to keep my cool, but drag myself into negative feelings. I believe she knows i like her and she gives me attention regular but she is having a bf, where she speaks positive about, and i don´t want to get frustrated about that fact. So, how is the best way to behave?
 

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She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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