"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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What to do when her attention/attraction slips away?

LittleBigOne

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What to do when you like a girl who gives you attention but you have the feeling her attention/attraction is slipping slightly away? I start to feel less comfortable about myself at this point and want to turn around the bad feeling.

Any thoughts?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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LittleBigOne said:
What to do when you like a girl who gives you attention but you have the feeling her attention/attraction is slipping slightly away? I start to feel less comfortable about myself at this point and want to turn around the bad feeling.

Any thoughts?

Are we talking about a girl you're dating or just some lady at the coffee shop who smiles at you?

If it's someone you're dating, and she's going cold, then you have to go colder.

And if it's someone you're NOT dating, then you need to grab your balls and ask her out before it turns completely cold.
 

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Women naturally do this coquettish behavior. You need to learn to withdraw and go NC until she comes to you. Even when she does, she is likely to be somewhat cold and aloof so don't jump right back in too soon.
 

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She is a colleague of my. In two weeks, during our holiday she comes over to my place. She is gonna cook for me (indonesion, where her roots are from). I am positive about that (as long she won´t flake).
The thing is, i want to keep my cool, but drag myself into negative feelings. I believe she knows i like her and she gives me attention regular but she is having a bf, where she speaks positive about, and i don´t want to get frustrated about that fact. So, how is the best way to behave?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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