"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What to Do When a Plate Starts Spinning You or Playing Games?

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So say you going out with 2-3 girls. One of these girls you like more than the rest and have even thought about LTR with her. She starts to go cold on you. Dates get canceled sometimes last minute. Her attention is drifting. Her mind is some here else (another guy) most likely.

What's the move here? Dump her? Or just be cool and get it when she goes to the date. When she cancels getting emotional is not the right response of course but is setting ultimatum a right response?

Would you be ok being a plates plan B if you got other girls you banging but she she one you really like?

I made a mistake with a girl. Instead of acting cool I kind of disclosed how much I liked her and then it was all over. Should I have just said ok hit me up whenever and leave it at that. Let her come to me whenever she wanted to. My ego got in the way because I felt like I was being played.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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So say you going out with 2-3 girls.

I made a mistake with a girl. Instead of acting cool I kind of disclosed how much I liked her and then it was all over. Should I have just said ok hit me up whenever and leave it at that. Let her come to me whenever she wanted to. My ego got in the way because I felt like I was being played.
So now you are going out with 1-2 girls instead of 2-3 girls.

You should wince when you read your own last paragraph.

Your ego did get in the way. If you think that's any excuse at all, you haven't a clue.
 

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That must be some extraordinary p*ssy for you to be worried about what the f*ck a plate is doing. Rex is curious to see who has you so p*ssy whipped. Post a picture of you and her.
 

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Lesson learned.

I realize how stupid I acted with this girl.

Have other girls so it's not as bad as in the past.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Rex,

Won't be posting pics.

I'm new to this. Have learned a lot here but as you can see still have ways to go.
 

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Listen.. NEVER chase after a woman's interest level.

If she loses interest then say NEXT and keep it moving. Never try to raise a woman's interest level. Such behavior is not only beta, but it also demonstrates you don't believe you are worthy. Which is pathetic.
I get it Poon. I haven't really chased her. Things with her have stalled. The other two girls remain in play. One of them I'm losing interest in though. She's like a 6. I got with her because I felt like I needed to get going with practicing what I've learned in dating and relationships. Her Interest level is very high. And as it happens she's the one I like the least. The one whose interest has lowered I like the most. But won't chase. Will find someone as good looking or better looking than her who shows interest and I'll be better positioned to keep her interstate high with the lessons I keep learning.

Have any of you guys had a rotation of like 4-5 girls all with high interest? How do you deal with the constant testing/calling? This one girl who is very into me texts me all the freaking time.
 

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So say you going out with 2-3 girls. One of these girls you like more than the rest and have even thought about LTR with her. She starts to go cold on you. Dates get canceled sometimes last minute. Her attention is drifting. Her mind is some here else (another guy) most likely.

What's the move here? Dump her?
Come on bro, how do you go out with 3 hot girls and then think like this?

"Hello Cindy, I feel like you are not showing me enough attention and are too into this new guy. My ego can't handle such a situation therefore Im going to dump you."

Or just be cool and get it when she goes to the date. When she cancels getting emotional is not the right response of course but is setting ultimatum a right response?
Ultimatum with a girl? Why don't you improve your product so she really wants it, instead of begging her to take it?

Would you be ok being a plates plan B if you got other girls you banging but she she one you really like?

I made a mistake with a girl. Instead of acting cool I kind of disclosed how much I liked her and then it was all over.
NEVER NEVER NEVER tell a girl how much you like them, she will USE IT AGAINST YOU FOR PROFIT. Stop the Disney movies and start watching James Bond.
 

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Got It Trump. Improve the product so she can't get enough of it and it she decides to go elsewhere then fvck her. No chasing.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Got It Trump. Improve the product so she can't get enough of it and it she decides to go elsewhere then fvck her. No chasing.
I agree with this viewpoint. Women CHOOSE. It's up to us to be aware we are chose.
 

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Do we as men or do we not also influence her choice by being in control of ourselves and our environment! When I walk into a bar I walk in like I own the place! Have a couple buddies dress to the nines and walk in like your gods gift to this planet! Heads will turn! The women will want you and the men will want to be you!
 
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