"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What to Do When a Plate Starts Spinning You or Playing Games?

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So say you going out with 2-3 girls. One of these girls you like more than the rest and have even thought about LTR with her. She starts to go cold on you. Dates get canceled sometimes last minute. Her attention is drifting. Her mind is some here else (another guy) most likely.

What's the move here? Dump her? Or just be cool and get it when she goes to the date. When she cancels getting emotional is not the right response of course but is setting ultimatum a right response?

Would you be ok being a plates plan B if you got other girls you banging but she she one you really like?

I made a mistake with a girl. Instead of acting cool I kind of disclosed how much I liked her and then it was all over. Should I have just said ok hit me up whenever and leave it at that. Let her come to me whenever she wanted to. My ego got in the way because I felt like I was being played.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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So say you going out with 2-3 girls.

I made a mistake with a girl. Instead of acting cool I kind of disclosed how much I liked her and then it was all over. Should I have just said ok hit me up whenever and leave it at that. Let her come to me whenever she wanted to. My ego got in the way because I felt like I was being played.
So now you are going out with 1-2 girls instead of 2-3 girls.

You should wince when you read your own last paragraph.

Your ego did get in the way. If you think that's any excuse at all, you haven't a clue.
 

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That must be some extraordinary p*ssy for you to be worried about what the f*ck a plate is doing. Rex is curious to see who has you so p*ssy whipped. Post a picture of you and her.
 

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Lesson learned.

I realize how stupid I acted with this girl.

Have other girls so it's not as bad as in the past.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Nu Vision

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Rex,

Won't be posting pics.

I'm new to this. Have learned a lot here but as you can see still have ways to go.
 

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Listen.. NEVER chase after a woman's interest level.

If she loses interest then say NEXT and keep it moving. Never try to raise a woman's interest level. Such behavior is not only beta, but it also demonstrates you don't believe you are worthy. Which is pathetic.
I get it Poon. I haven't really chased her. Things with her have stalled. The other two girls remain in play. One of them I'm losing interest in though. She's like a 6. I got with her because I felt like I needed to get going with practicing what I've learned in dating and relationships. Her Interest level is very high. And as it happens she's the one I like the least. The one whose interest has lowered I like the most. But won't chase. Will find someone as good looking or better looking than her who shows interest and I'll be better positioned to keep her interstate high with the lessons I keep learning.

Have any of you guys had a rotation of like 4-5 girls all with high interest? How do you deal with the constant testing/calling? This one girl who is very into me texts me all the freaking time.
 

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So say you going out with 2-3 girls. One of these girls you like more than the rest and have even thought about LTR with her. She starts to go cold on you. Dates get canceled sometimes last minute. Her attention is drifting. Her mind is some here else (another guy) most likely.

What's the move here? Dump her?
Come on bro, how do you go out with 3 hot girls and then think like this?

"Hello Cindy, I feel like you are not showing me enough attention and are too into this new guy. My ego can't handle such a situation therefore Im going to dump you."

Or just be cool and get it when she goes to the date. When she cancels getting emotional is not the right response of course but is setting ultimatum a right response?
Ultimatum with a girl? Why don't you improve your product so she really wants it, instead of begging her to take it?

Would you be ok being a plates plan B if you got other girls you banging but she she one you really like?

I made a mistake with a girl. Instead of acting cool I kind of disclosed how much I liked her and then it was all over.
NEVER NEVER NEVER tell a girl how much you like them, she will USE IT AGAINST YOU FOR PROFIT. Stop the Disney movies and start watching James Bond.
 

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Got It Trump. Improve the product so she can't get enough of it and it she decides to go elsewhere then fvck her. No chasing.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Got It Trump. Improve the product so she can't get enough of it and it she decides to go elsewhere then fvck her. No chasing.
I agree with this viewpoint. Women CHOOSE. It's up to us to be aware we are chose.
 

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Do we as men or do we not also influence her choice by being in control of ourselves and our environment! When I walk into a bar I walk in like I own the place! Have a couple buddies dress to the nines and walk in like your gods gift to this planet! Heads will turn! The women will want you and the men will want to be you!
 
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