Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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DanjoZ

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Hello fellow DJs. I really want you advice/opinion in an issue.

You see, I've been dating this girl for a couple of weeks. Everything is great. I am a DJ afterall so I know how to play my cards right. I'm the better catch and I'm sure she is the first to say it.

BUT..

I don't know what to do now. What is the next step? I'm pretty confused and I need your advice =)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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hey, i'M not really a don juan but if you want the masters so help you out, you should describe what you mean a little bit more in detail. ie: what do you expect from the relationship, how are things going right now...
 

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First of all. Couldn't agree with you more. You shouldn't plan "next step". Just keep doin what you are doin. Don't think to much. Just keep hitting those punches!


Allright! Here's some more info..

I'm 22 and she's 20. We've been dating for about 8 weeks tho we have been very intrusive I've meet no bad feelings such "to used to her" and stuff I usually feel. I just want to keep the fire hot you know. Do new stuff and such.

So what do you think? Just keep on doin what I've been doin. And by that I mean Dating and such things.
 

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Originally posted by DanjoZ
First of all. Couldn't agree with you more. You shouldn't plan "next step". Just keep doin what you are doin. Don't think to much. Just keep hitting those punches!


Allright! Here's some more info..

I'm 22 and she's 20. We've been dating for about 8 weeks tho we have been very intrusive I've meet no bad feelings such "to used to her" and stuff I usually feel. I just want to keep the fire hot you know. Do new stuff and such.

So what do you think? Just keep on doin what I've been doin. And by that I mean Dating and such things.
What do you do to keep "the fire hot" in your OWN life, girl aside?
 

DanjoZ

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Very true! Actually I've been thinking of her waaaays to much lately.

I've been break dancin alot in my days. And I have toughts hit the dance floor again, but right now I've got nothing in particular "keeping the fire hot" in my own life actually.

Ofcuz that's not why I'm dating the girl. But yeah.. I'll try not making the relationship take too much space.

What are your suggestions then? How much time shall I spend on the girl approximatley?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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