Ok it's like this. My friend and I started liking a girl and we both went for her. I was really nice and sweet to the girl, which I shouldn't have done. My friend, on the other hand, wasn't as needy as I was and naturally showed his bad side. And of course, any1 would be able to predict the result, the girl likes my friend. However being the bad guy as he was, he said that he would break up with the girl shortly and this girl to me is like someone I don't wanna lose. So do you think after they break up, will I have any chance w/ her if I start being a bad guy?? Thanks 4 ur answer in advance.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
What to do in this sitation??
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- Start date
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
NSUballer
Senior Don Juan
Its not that he was a "bad boy". You just seemed needy. he was indifferent.
NSUballer
Senior Don Juan
I imagine your a teenager. no i hope you are
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
No no that's not what I meant, of course after they break up she would be available for everyone. What I want to know is should I try to be the bad guy to get her then? Because before I was really sweet and nice to her already and that probably created the impression that I'm a nice guy.
IF your asking to be the bad guy then I dont think it would work, I think once she breaks up with your friend she will rush to you to fulfill her needs of tamponism (So what it's not a word wanna fight about it) ...I dont think you will be able to get with her since SHE already picked someone over you but hey go ahead just remember to not be her tampon...good luck.
Real question is, why are you still hung up on this ONE girl even after your buddy won her over?
Waste of time man. Even if she does go out with you, her eyes will always be scanning for another guy, a better branch to swing to, like the twig you are. You're just temporary if it ever happens.
Waste of time man. Even if she does go out with you, her eyes will always be scanning for another guy, a better branch to swing to, like the twig you are. You're just temporary if it ever happens.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
Tamponism????j0n024 said:
I like that.