Ok it's like this. My friend and I started liking a girl and we both went for her. I was really nice and sweet to the girl, which I shouldn't have done. My friend, on the other hand, wasn't as needy as I was and naturally showed his bad side. And of course, any1 would be able to predict the result, the girl likes my friend. However being the bad guy as he was, he said that he would break up with the girl shortly and this girl to me is like someone I don't wanna lose. So do you think after they break up, will I have any chance w/ her if I start being a bad guy?? Thanks 4 ur answer in advance.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
What to do in this sitation??
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- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
NSUballer
Senior Don Juan
Its not that he was a "bad boy". You just seemed needy. he was indifferent.
NSUballer
Senior Don Juan
I imagine your a teenager. no i hope you are
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
No no that's not what I meant, of course after they break up she would be available for everyone. What I want to know is should I try to be the bad guy to get her then? Because before I was really sweet and nice to her already and that probably created the impression that I'm a nice guy.
IF your asking to be the bad guy then I dont think it would work, I think once she breaks up with your friend she will rush to you to fulfill her needs of tamponism (So what it's not a word wanna fight about it) ...I dont think you will be able to get with her since SHE already picked someone over you but hey go ahead just remember to not be her tampon...good luck.
Real question is, why are you still hung up on this ONE girl even after your buddy won her over?
Waste of time man. Even if she does go out with you, her eyes will always be scanning for another guy, a better branch to swing to, like the twig you are. You're just temporary if it ever happens.
Waste of time man. Even if she does go out with you, her eyes will always be scanning for another guy, a better branch to swing to, like the twig you are. You're just temporary if it ever happens.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
Tamponism????j0n024 said:
I like that.