lokariototal
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One of my best friends, is suddenly becoming a pimp, and Im too proud and competitive to feel good for him. What should I do???
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
What to do if your best friend is getting more chicks
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
stonetowers
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Don't worry about him.Do your thing.
zekko
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I'll confess I tend to have this mindset as well. Not with the best friend business, but just with anyone. I tend to think that all women should be aspiring to be with me 
Anyway, when someone comes in and draws more female attention than I do it seriously p!sses me off. Part of this is natural male competitiveness, part of it is just evil and envy.
But like stonetowers says, do your own thing. There are plenty of women to go around for everybody. Well, pretty much almost everybody.
Anyway, when someone comes in and draws more female attention than I do it seriously p!sses me off. Part of this is natural male competitiveness, part of it is just evil and envy.But like stonetowers says, do your own thing. There are plenty of women to go around for everybody. Well, pretty much almost everybody.
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That's what we call jealousy. It's perfectly natural. Get over it.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Igetit!
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lokariototal said:
You want to know what you should do if your best friend is getting more girls than you? Oh that's easy.
YOU LEARN FROM HIM!!!
(ridiculous)
Hey this happens to me too. And i must confess sometimes its overpowering. But yeah, you must realise that he is your friend. Smile and do your thing. I have a very good friend who gets nearly two times the chicks that i get. But the catch is, they range from HB5 to HB8 and lol, thats where my range starts. I go for chicks only above HB8. So i guess it all depends on knowing what you aim for and how much effort you put in it. Bottomline: be detached. Do your thing.zekko said:I'll confess I tend to have this mindset as well. Not with the best friend business, but just with anyone. I tend to think that all women should be aspiring to be with me
But like stonetowers says, do your own thing. There are plenty of women to go around for everybody. Well, pretty much almost everybody.
Gangster Of Love
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With that attitude, you will always be a bottom-feeder, and play second banana to your friend, and to more skilled guys than you. Yet, the solution is in your environment.lokariototal said:
What's wrong with you. Go find out what he's doing and learn his newly found mad skillz!!!! Most of us here don't have friends who are very good at this game. You have a great opportunity to cut your learning process, so Don't Hate, Emulate!
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
zekko
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Well, honestly, I wasn't even talking about a friend. What I had in mind specifically in this case is this new dude at work. It's very clear the HB8s and above are very attracted to this guy, he forms very close relationships with them, and they are always off whispering with him and whatnot. I'm not sure what it is that he's doing other than he manages to form very strong connections with them.kokane said:
This really shouldn't bother me because I'm in a LTR, and very happily so. But this guy is also in a LTR (although he is clearly cheating on her). In any case, it irritates me that he gets all this attention from the hottest women. I think part of it may be that he is willing to cheat (whereas I am not) so he is sending these signals to them that he will get busy with them.
And the other thing is he is closer to their age - you might note I'm starting to get up there in years now, so that helps him connect with them. I guess the age thing is starting to p!ss me off, and that's part of it. Because I've only recently started to get the feeling that I'm actually getting old enough now that it's becoming a disadvantage for me, whereas I've never felt that before.