lokariototal
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One of my best friends, is suddenly becoming a pimp, and Im too proud and competitive to feel good for him. What should I do???
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
What to do if your best friend is getting more chicks
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
stonetowers
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Don't worry about him.Do your thing.
zekko
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I'll confess I tend to have this mindset as well. Not with the best friend business, but just with anyone. I tend to think that all women should be aspiring to be with me 
Anyway, when someone comes in and draws more female attention than I do it seriously p!sses me off. Part of this is natural male competitiveness, part of it is just evil and envy.
But like stonetowers says, do your own thing. There are plenty of women to go around for everybody. Well, pretty much almost everybody.
Anyway, when someone comes in and draws more female attention than I do it seriously p!sses me off. Part of this is natural male competitiveness, part of it is just evil and envy.But like stonetowers says, do your own thing. There are plenty of women to go around for everybody. Well, pretty much almost everybody.
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user43770
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That's what we call jealousy. It's perfectly natural. Get over it.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Igetit!
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lokariototal said:
You want to know what you should do if your best friend is getting more girls than you? Oh that's easy.
YOU LEARN FROM HIM!!!
(ridiculous)
Hey this happens to me too. And i must confess sometimes its overpowering. But yeah, you must realise that he is your friend. Smile and do your thing. I have a very good friend who gets nearly two times the chicks that i get. But the catch is, they range from HB5 to HB8 and lol, thats where my range starts. I go for chicks only above HB8. So i guess it all depends on knowing what you aim for and how much effort you put in it. Bottomline: be detached. Do your thing.zekko said:I'll confess I tend to have this mindset as well. Not with the best friend business, but just with anyone. I tend to think that all women should be aspiring to be with me
But like stonetowers says, do your own thing. There are plenty of women to go around for everybody. Well, pretty much almost everybody.
Gangster Of Love
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With that attitude, you will always be a bottom-feeder, and play second banana to your friend, and to more skilled guys than you. Yet, the solution is in your environment.lokariototal said:
What's wrong with you. Go find out what he's doing and learn his newly found mad skillz!!!! Most of us here don't have friends who are very good at this game. You have a great opportunity to cut your learning process, so Don't Hate, Emulate!
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
zekko
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Well, honestly, I wasn't even talking about a friend. What I had in mind specifically in this case is this new dude at work. It's very clear the HB8s and above are very attracted to this guy, he forms very close relationships with them, and they are always off whispering with him and whatnot. I'm not sure what it is that he's doing other than he manages to form very strong connections with them.kokane said:
This really shouldn't bother me because I'm in a LTR, and very happily so. But this guy is also in a LTR (although he is clearly cheating on her). In any case, it irritates me that he gets all this attention from the hottest women. I think part of it may be that he is willing to cheat (whereas I am not) so he is sending these signals to them that he will get busy with them.
And the other thing is he is closer to their age - you might note I'm starting to get up there in years now, so that helps him connect with them. I guess the age thing is starting to p!ss me off, and that's part of it. Because I've only recently started to get the feeling that I'm actually getting old enough now that it's becoming a disadvantage for me, whereas I've never felt that before.