lokariototal
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One of my best friends, is suddenly becoming a pimp, and Im too proud and competitive to feel good for him. What should I do???
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
What to do if your best friend is getting more chicks
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
stonetowers
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Don't worry about him.Do your thing.
zekko
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I'll confess I tend to have this mindset as well. Not with the best friend business, but just with anyone. I tend to think that all women should be aspiring to be with me 
Anyway, when someone comes in and draws more female attention than I do it seriously p!sses me off. Part of this is natural male competitiveness, part of it is just evil and envy.
But like stonetowers says, do your own thing. There are plenty of women to go around for everybody. Well, pretty much almost everybody.
Anyway, when someone comes in and draws more female attention than I do it seriously p!sses me off. Part of this is natural male competitiveness, part of it is just evil and envy.But like stonetowers says, do your own thing. There are plenty of women to go around for everybody. Well, pretty much almost everybody.
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That's what we call jealousy. It's perfectly natural. Get over it.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Igetit!
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lokariototal said:
You want to know what you should do if your best friend is getting more girls than you? Oh that's easy.
YOU LEARN FROM HIM!!!
(ridiculous)
Hey this happens to me too. And i must confess sometimes its overpowering. But yeah, you must realise that he is your friend. Smile and do your thing. I have a very good friend who gets nearly two times the chicks that i get. But the catch is, they range from HB5 to HB8 and lol, thats where my range starts. I go for chicks only above HB8. So i guess it all depends on knowing what you aim for and how much effort you put in it. Bottomline: be detached. Do your thing.zekko said:I'll confess I tend to have this mindset as well. Not with the best friend business, but just with anyone. I tend to think that all women should be aspiring to be with me
But like stonetowers says, do your own thing. There are plenty of women to go around for everybody. Well, pretty much almost everybody.
Gangster Of Love
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With that attitude, you will always be a bottom-feeder, and play second banana to your friend, and to more skilled guys than you. Yet, the solution is in your environment.lokariototal said:
What's wrong with you. Go find out what he's doing and learn his newly found mad skillz!!!! Most of us here don't have friends who are very good at this game. You have a great opportunity to cut your learning process, so Don't Hate, Emulate!
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
zekko
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Well, honestly, I wasn't even talking about a friend. What I had in mind specifically in this case is this new dude at work. It's very clear the HB8s and above are very attracted to this guy, he forms very close relationships with them, and they are always off whispering with him and whatnot. I'm not sure what it is that he's doing other than he manages to form very strong connections with them.kokane said:
This really shouldn't bother me because I'm in a LTR, and very happily so. But this guy is also in a LTR (although he is clearly cheating on her). In any case, it irritates me that he gets all this attention from the hottest women. I think part of it may be that he is willing to cheat (whereas I am not) so he is sending these signals to them that he will get busy with them.
And the other thing is he is closer to their age - you might note I'm starting to get up there in years now, so that helps him connect with them. I guess the age thing is starting to p!ss me off, and that's part of it. Because I've only recently started to get the feeling that I'm actually getting old enough now that it's becoming a disadvantage for me, whereas I've never felt that before.