I asked a girl if she wanted to watch a movie at my place and she was doing something at the moment and said she'll call back at 11pm if she can do it. it's 11:45 right now and no call. what to do. i'll most likely ignore but is there something else i can do?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
What to do if she doesn't call when she says?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
eh she called and we rescheduled for next week.
But in general though how to ask a female to come to the apt or hang out at her place? i frequently get the "i'm busy" response (considering these are college girls and i graduated and looking for a job/career)
But in general though how to ask a female to come to the apt or hang out at her place? i frequently get the "i'm busy" response (considering these are college girls and i graduated and looking for a job/career)
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I'm busy or maybe means the woman wants to say no without hurting your feelings. Essentially anything other than yes means no. Indirectly it means no, but it still means no.
Building strong atraction and rapport can prevent this and flake setups and flakes. Don't catch feelings or go emotional and you'll be fine!
Case closed. Get back in the field.
Building strong atraction and rapport can prevent this and flake setups and flakes. Don't catch feelings or go emotional and you'll be fine!
Case closed. Get back in the field.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
thecurtainfalls
Senior Don Juan
One of the best "indicators of interest" I've found in my entire dating career is what I call "proximity".
A girl who is interested in you will likely go out of their way to be around you a lot. They will reschedule their lives to make time for you. All things being equal, although I don't really care to try and figure out what a girl is thinking ever, if she's around a lot or makes herself available, she's probably interested.
In other words, she wouldn't be so busy if she was truly DTF. Next.
A girl who is interested in you will likely go out of their way to be around you a lot. They will reschedule their lives to make time for you. All things being equal, although I don't really care to try and figure out what a girl is thinking ever, if she's around a lot or makes herself available, she's probably interested.
In other words, she wouldn't be so busy if she was truly DTF. Next.
kingsam
Master Don Juan
did you call a girl up for later the same day?
if you did thats way too last minute - they most likely to already have plans for a start but it also makes you look like you got nothing going on... always do it for a few days time...
if you did thats way too last minute - they most likely to already have plans for a start but it also makes you look like you got nothing going on... always do it for a few days time...