You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
He does? You must know him so well... good friends, eh? If not, then you assume too much. Don't go on a blind crusade of justice.D!ck Ramsey said:mahon clearly thinks that whites are superiors and that their society doesnt have a ghetto, or underbelly.
This.DevanE said:
mahon83050 said:Just curious....Were they negroes? They tend to that when they outnumber their assailant 4 to 1 or more.
AménAce of Flames said:Stupidity knows no color.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Actually, the term ghetto came about in reference to the Judenstrasse in Germany, where the Jews (mostly white) were forced to live in extremely close proximity and extreme poverty. So yes, I have heard of white ghettos, in fact they were the FIRST ghettos.mahon83050 said:Ok *******, how many white ghetto's do you see? Not really any.....
Let's see how you feel next time you get stranded in the ghetto.
LOL great stuff!DevanE said:
I just can't see how one would logically come to that conclusion.Ace of Flames said:I don't feel mahon was being racist.
He specifically asked if they were black (I really don't care what term he used) and then elaborated as to why he was asking. He didn't say thugs, hoodlums, *******s, idiots, etc., he said "negroes". That is the definition of being a racist...mahon83050 said:Just curious....Were they negroes? They tend to that when they outnumber their assailant 4 to 1 or more.
This speaks volumes about his mentality and warped views.mahon83050 said:how many white ghetto's do you see? Not really any.....
It's all about the context in which you use these terms. I guess the way you try and lump all of this together makes it seem like some simple concept that stupid people around the world just don't get, but it would take entirely way too much time to explain why it goes much deeper then that.Ace of Flames said:People get all offended when someone of another race calls them one of those derogatory names, but they laugh and joke about it all day among their own kind. That's not right. Either everything is OK to joke about, or none of it is. If you're gonna be pissed when one guy calls you a name, and then laugh about it when another guy does, then you shouldn't say it at all. You're just causing yourself and your own people more grief.
Plus, how stupid is it to greet your friends with a word that just opens up old wounds? People astound me.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You can tell a lot from a person by what they say. I dont need to become good friends with someone to be able to tell they are ignorant. Thankfully common sense spares me that torture.Ace of Flames said:He does? You must know him so well... good friends, eh? If not, then you assume too much. Don't go on a blind crusade of justice.
We agree more than you think. I am not defending any particular race here. But when somebody makes really ignorant statements out of nowhere, they deserves to be put in their place.And that's the precise reason why I don't really like those kinds of people either, regardless of race. Its their attitude. Like they're the sh!t. Ignorance and arrogance make a nasty combination.
His question had nothing to do with the flow of the convo. The whole race thing came wayyyy out of left field. The dude has issues with prejudice that you can see in other threads.Now, when mahon first posted in this thread, he asked a simple question, albeit badly worded. You all painted him as racist, and then the flames just grew naturally.
He also should not have made that silly remark about white people not having ghettos. In my opinion, the kid got off easy. He should know better.Now, he shouldn't have said they acted the way they did because they were black. He SHOULD have said they did it because they were idiots. Stupidity knows no color.
It depends on how far you take it. I think its harmless to play off certain stereotypes because for the most part they tend to be true. We are all different and to poke fun at these distinctions is fine.ketostix said:But here's a question for you. Is it really so wrong to be racist? Is it so wrong to be sexist?
You really believe that someone who thinks white people are too good for ghettos is not racist? What are you smoking and where can I get some?you get a sense if a white person says something about a black person, people get a knee jerk reaction and a repulsion and claim racism.
Thank god for that. If mahon were in my neighborhood he would be posting from the intensive care unit where they'd be extracting someone's foot from his ass.sandman6991 said:It's an INTERNET FORUM!!
You are aware that the first ghetto's were created by Nazi germany when they put the Jewish people into what was called a ghetto.mahon83050 said:Ok *******, how many white ghetto's do you see? Not really any.....
Let's see how you feel next time you get stranded in the ghetto.
I see someone else knows true history. This mahon guy is a real loser. He is probably 15 years old with a lot of maturity to undergo before he becomes a man.MooseGod said:Actually, the term ghetto came about in reference to the Judenstrasse in Germany, where the Jews (mostly white) were forced to live in extremely close proximity and extreme poverty. So yes, I have heard of white ghettos, in fact they were the FIRST ghettos.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Sorry, I've been away for a bit.They just haven't found this thread yet. It would have been closed way earlier if they knew the kind of flaming that was going on.