Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
He does? You must know him so well... good friends, eh? If not, then you assume too much. Don't go on a blind crusade of justice.D!ck Ramsey said:mahon clearly thinks that whites are superiors and that their society doesnt have a ghetto, or underbelly.
This.DevanE said:
mahon83050 said:Just curious....Were they negroes? They tend to that when they outnumber their assailant 4 to 1 or more.
AménAce of Flames said:Stupidity knows no color.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Actually, the term ghetto came about in reference to the Judenstrasse in Germany, where the Jews (mostly white) were forced to live in extremely close proximity and extreme poverty. So yes, I have heard of white ghettos, in fact they were the FIRST ghettos.mahon83050 said:Ok *******, how many white ghetto's do you see? Not really any.....
Let's see how you feel next time you get stranded in the ghetto.
LOL great stuff!DevanE said:
I just can't see how one would logically come to that conclusion.Ace of Flames said:I don't feel mahon was being racist.
He specifically asked if they were black (I really don't care what term he used) and then elaborated as to why he was asking. He didn't say thugs, hoodlums, *******s, idiots, etc., he said "negroes". That is the definition of being a racist...mahon83050 said:Just curious....Were they negroes? They tend to that when they outnumber their assailant 4 to 1 or more.
This speaks volumes about his mentality and warped views.mahon83050 said:how many white ghetto's do you see? Not really any.....
It's all about the context in which you use these terms. I guess the way you try and lump all of this together makes it seem like some simple concept that stupid people around the world just don't get, but it would take entirely way too much time to explain why it goes much deeper then that.Ace of Flames said:People get all offended when someone of another race calls them one of those derogatory names, but they laugh and joke about it all day among their own kind. That's not right. Either everything is OK to joke about, or none of it is. If you're gonna be pissed when one guy calls you a name, and then laugh about it when another guy does, then you shouldn't say it at all. You're just causing yourself and your own people more grief.
Plus, how stupid is it to greet your friends with a word that just opens up old wounds? People astound me.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You can tell a lot from a person by what they say. I dont need to become good friends with someone to be able to tell they are ignorant. Thankfully common sense spares me that torture.Ace of Flames said:He does? You must know him so well... good friends, eh? If not, then you assume too much. Don't go on a blind crusade of justice.
We agree more than you think. I am not defending any particular race here. But when somebody makes really ignorant statements out of nowhere, they deserves to be put in their place.And that's the precise reason why I don't really like those kinds of people either, regardless of race. Its their attitude. Like they're the sh!t. Ignorance and arrogance make a nasty combination.
His question had nothing to do with the flow of the convo. The whole race thing came wayyyy out of left field. The dude has issues with prejudice that you can see in other threads.Now, when mahon first posted in this thread, he asked a simple question, albeit badly worded. You all painted him as racist, and then the flames just grew naturally.
He also should not have made that silly remark about white people not having ghettos. In my opinion, the kid got off easy. He should know better.Now, he shouldn't have said they acted the way they did because they were black. He SHOULD have said they did it because they were idiots. Stupidity knows no color.
It depends on how far you take it. I think its harmless to play off certain stereotypes because for the most part they tend to be true. We are all different and to poke fun at these distinctions is fine.ketostix said:But here's a question for you. Is it really so wrong to be racist? Is it so wrong to be sexist?
You really believe that someone who thinks white people are too good for ghettos is not racist? What are you smoking and where can I get some?you get a sense if a white person says something about a black person, people get a knee jerk reaction and a repulsion and claim racism.
Thank god for that. If mahon were in my neighborhood he would be posting from the intensive care unit where they'd be extracting someone's foot from his ass.sandman6991 said:It's an INTERNET FORUM!!
You are aware that the first ghetto's were created by Nazi germany when they put the Jewish people into what was called a ghetto.mahon83050 said:Ok *******, how many white ghetto's do you see? Not really any.....
Let's see how you feel next time you get stranded in the ghetto.
I see someone else knows true history. This mahon guy is a real loser. He is probably 15 years old with a lot of maturity to undergo before he becomes a man.MooseGod said:Actually, the term ghetto came about in reference to the Judenstrasse in Germany, where the Jews (mostly white) were forced to live in extremely close proximity and extreme poverty. So yes, I have heard of white ghettos, in fact they were the FIRST ghettos.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Sorry, I've been away for a bit.They just haven't found this thread yet. It would have been closed way earlier if they knew the kind of flaming that was going on.