"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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what to do after sex?

Heathcliff83

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I recently just got burned by a girl I really liked, etc. Well unfortunately I decided to say goodbye to her, she started playing games (not Game) with me after we had sex. I was like "what the ****?", and I don't put up with that ****. So I had to painfully let her go and even though she doesn't know it, but I had to, my intuition was telling me otherwise so I am listening to it. So, what do I do after sex? I waited 2 days to contact her afterwards, etc. Should I ignore her calls or texts if she tries to contact me?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Snake-eyes

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Well you got what you wanted out of her.... Don’t know why shes playing games after the deal has been done. I would next her if I was in your situation. There’s plenty of them out there
 

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I agree with Snake-eyes. Move on. You said it yourself... you don't put up with it. A man doesn't have time for games. Get back to the focus being on you.
 

Heathcliff83

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Appreciate the response. It's actually kind of hard for me not to be beat up over it because I was hoping to have a relationship with her and she said she wanted to see where it goes , etc. that's the second time I been used like that by women. My game must really be off. But hey whatever, it hurts but I am moving on as I said previously.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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guru1000

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Appreciate the response. It's actually kind of hard for me not to be beat up over it because I was hoping to have a relationship with her and she said she wanted to see where it goes , etc. that's the second time I been used like that by women. My game must really be off. But hey whatever, it hurts but I am moving on as I said previously.
@AJ84 Yup, men don't get used for sex too, huh?
 

guru1000

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Men can get used for sex, yeah, it’s just more common for them to be used for money and resources.
Yup. Hence man is under so social "obligation" to call women after sex too. Neither party is. To tell men otherwise was incorrect.
 

greatsnake

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If I want to pursue a relationship with a girl I just vanged, I’d just hang around with her after sex, maybe grab some food. That way she sees that you’re interested in her, not only because of z3x
 
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