Been flirting with girl at work who just got out of a bad 1 week relationship with an abusive guy. I said we should hang and she said she's down. Never heard from her. I barely text her and I heard from someone that this girl thinks she likes me. I ask her to hang again and nothing happens. She texted me that night that she misses me. She says she wants a bf. Seems like she has no clue what she wants and playing games is getting old. So move on or keep trying.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
What to do about girl at work
- Thread starter boomjml
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
DiegoSantori
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You should focus on your job at your job. Even if you work with 20 attractive women all day every day, keep your thoughts to yourself, say as little as possible and focus on your job.
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Just don't.
RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
Not a good idea to mix relationships with work. I'm not saying it can't be done, I've done this before, but the two people have to be mature about it. Doesn't sound like you two are capable of doing this. I'm not trying to insult you, but if you have to think about this... you do not have the experience necessary to pull this off.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Where did this info that she had a "bad one week relationship come from?"
Did she tell you or someone else. If it was her and she is playing games with you now, it might be your turn for her to have a short bad relationship with. I would say back off and avoid. Let her come to you and play it cool. But the fact that you work with her you may want to just avoid this one all together so you dont wind up getting yourself fired over some head case.