Been flirting with girl at work who just got out of a bad 1 week relationship with an abusive guy. I said we should hang and she said she's down. Never heard from her. I barely text her and I heard from someone that this girl thinks she likes me. I ask her to hang again and nothing happens. She texted me that night that she misses me. She says she wants a bf. Seems like she has no clue what she wants and playing games is getting old. So move on or keep trying.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
What to do about girl at work
- Thread starter boomjml
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
DiegoSantori
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You should focus on your job at your job. Even if you work with 20 attractive women all day every day, keep your thoughts to yourself, say as little as possible and focus on your job.
daddymonsterpoodle
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Just don't.
RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
Not a good idea to mix relationships with work. I'm not saying it can't be done, I've done this before, but the two people have to be mature about it. Doesn't sound like you two are capable of doing this. I'm not trying to insult you, but if you have to think about this... you do not have the experience necessary to pull this off.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Where did this info that she had a "bad one week relationship come from?"
Did she tell you or someone else. If it was her and she is playing games with you now, it might be your turn for her to have a short bad relationship with. I would say back off and avoid. Let her come to you and play it cool. But the fact that you work with her you may want to just avoid this one all together so you dont wind up getting yourself fired over some head case.