"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What to about my best bud

dj_jazzybrad

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So I'm going out with this girl Rachel, she's hella cool. Tons of fun, you know the drill. Anyway she used to date my best friend, about a year or so ago. Before I knew her he told me how he kept her love letters after they broke up. He still has them. He just texted me about something and also said that my gf was over at his house... his parents are home, nothings happening, so i'm not worried about that specifically. Now under normal circumstances i would be the first to say "what she does with other guys is her business" but this is my best friend that we're talking about. I just talked to him the other day and he said he doesnt have any feelings for her anymore. I haven't talked to her yet, what should I do?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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navyseal2101

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I think he does have feeling for her still, she however I cant say for sure, and i'm actually thinking probably thinks of him as a friend. Thats my call. tell me how it goes.
 

Analyzeit

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He's an AFC with oneitis problems, and she probably does think of him as a friend. If you really wanted to what you should of done when he txted is gone to his house, i mean its your best mate and your girlfriend there, and the only reason they would be angry if you turned up, was if they were doing something they shouldn't be,

but just keep a eye on em, everything should be okay, but then i've always thought our ages are a bit more unpredictable when it comes to stuff like this..
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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It aint no fun if the homies cant have some..
 

lalahaha

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one important is rule you should never try to date your friend's ex especially your best bud's. sometimes they might say its OK but its still disrespectful in a way and they might only pretend to be OK with it, don't jeopardize stuff with your bud just for one girl
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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eaglez1177

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First off, why the hell would you EVER date your best friends ex gf? That is such a doucheb*g move bro. Like thats just being a total assh*le.
 
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