Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
That, and girls can smell attitudes like yours, That_Guy49, from a mile away. Even if you don't realize you're doing it, having a mindset like "What do I not have that they do" makes your body language tell girls, "I am easily frustrated and I get down on myself quickly."Originally posted by assassin
I'm assuming this is at school. You probably just haven't built up a big enough DJ reputation with the chicks yet. Just keep being the DJ you are and give it time.
Not necessarily true. I've had that attitude before and still had girls talk to me without me initiating anything. It doesn't happen all the time, but I still get HB7-9's initiating conversation sometimes. Only problem is I didn't do anything about it. Maybe you should try initiating conversation in the classroom, you have nothing to lose everything to gain. Also, I've noticed, many girls won't start saying hi to you even if they were the ones to initiate the conversation until you say Hi to them first. They will afterwards though.That, and girls can smell attitudes like yours, That_Guy49, from a mile away. Even if you don't realize you're doing it, having a mindset like "What do I not have that they do" makes your body language tell girls, "I am easily frustrated and I get down on myself quickly."
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I had the same experience, too, but those "HB7-9s" are generally the outgoing, peppy type who talk to everyone anyway (my girlfriend's one of them).Originally posted by wootapotky
Not necessarily true. I've had that attitude before and still had girls talk to me without me initiating anything. It doesn't happen all the time, but I still get HB7-9's initiating conversation sometimes. Only problem is I didn't do anything about it.