"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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What the hell is this girl thinking?

jaybeezi

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This girl is confusing as hell, and I dont know what she wants.

I talked to her a few times at work (we work different shifts)
and asked her out to a club (bad move, but she wanted to go there) So she asked for my #, I gave it to her, she calls me 2 days later, we talk for an hour.

We go out that night. She doesnt seem that interested, so i'm like, whatever. I called her about 4 days later, we talked for a few minutes and she said she would call me back because she was busy.

She called me back, and told me she was moving 2 hours away.
She just decided to move back home, (when I first talked to her she said she was "thinking" about moving in a month or two, but wasnt sure) then she said, well actually i'm already here. I was pretty surprised and wasnt sure what to say. So I said

me: well that sucks, for me anyway.
her: why?
me: because I was looking forward to seeing you more.
her sister: can she call you back.
She didnt.
So, I figured she was not at all interested and moved on, then she called me a week later, just to talk, she was just wondering what I was doing. The way she was talking about things made it seem like she was still here. We talked for about 30 min. Then she called me again the next night, but I wasnt home.

What does she want. She didnt seem interested, and she moved(supposedly), so why does she keep calling me? She keeps going back and forth with her IL, so I have no clue.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Don't talk to girls on the phone - see her in person and only for romantic purposes!!!

Did you notice how ineffective the phone was in gauging interest and receiving a response, due to interruptions and 'call backs'? She left your wooing advances in indefinite limbo!!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Genghis Juan

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You put too much effort in talking to her on the phone, and too little in getting together with her.

If you spend too much time on the phone, you are giving her "friendship" vibes.

Call her back and ask her out, and see what happens. Don't take her to a club, take her to a good quite action date, like bowling or a muesuem.
 
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