"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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What the hell is going on in SE Asia?

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I always thought Japan and SK were pretty nice places, maybe they are - their culture is still intact and haven't been infected with feminism yet. However it seems like the women have a massive social media addiction and I've heard they basically spend all day on their phones taking selfies (and seem to be using sneaky faceapp/filters too). And apparently there is an epidemic of loneliness that pales in comparison to here.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I always thought Japan and SK were pretty nice places, maybe they are - their culture is still intact and haven't been infected with feminism yet. However it seems like the women have a massive social media addiction and I've heard they basically spend all day on their phones taking selfies (and seem to be using sneaky faceapp/filters too). And apparently there is an epidemic of loneliness that pales in comparison to here.
You're talking about east Asia
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Yeah. Asia in general created the biggest beta men in history of mankind.

And women wil be women. Regardless of her race, some if not most women will still want a manly man. One that seemingly can protect her. Hell, most Asian women I know are bossy as feck. Extremely high standards and they're extremely high maintenance.

Western society isn't too far away from this kinda society though..


Oh you JUST found out? shiiiiiiiii
Haha yup. Like someone asking you" ever heard of Tinder?" Kinda old news.
 

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You're talking about east Asia
Yeah I'm not sure why i said SE Asia, I've been incidentally learning about Indochina area more so maybe that's why.

Oh you JUST found out? shiiiiiiiii
Oh no, I've known about it for a long time but no one really talks about it much, and it's actually getting worse. My point still stands, why is it happening? In particular the social media addiction. No one really seems to know.

I had thought about living in Japan or SK at some point but now I'm not so sure.
 
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Oh no, I've known about it for a long time but no one really talks about it much, and it's actually getting worse. My point still stands, why is it happening? In particular the social media addiction. No one really seems to know.

I had thought about living in Japan or SK at some point but now I'm not so sure.
It is rampant AF in the Philippines as well. Choose wisely bro.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I went on a long hiking trip this weekend and it was full of japanese women posing for pictures and selfies in front of the cool landscape. Their boyfriend was their photographer in every case too.

Japan and SK are extremely xenophobic societies, which probably explains a lot of it. The Japanese are also very subservient as a general rule, part of being an extremely authoritarian country, just without the marxist garbage that has infected every other country.

If you try to live in either country you're going to be a second class citizen. I've known guys who lived in japan, spoke excellent japanese, were japanese citizens but grew up outside the country, and they were still identified as Gaijin within the first few minutes of an interaction.
 
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Yeah I'm not sure why i said SE Asia, I've been incidentally learning about Indochina area more so maybe that's why.


Oh no, I've known about it for a long time but no one really talks about it much, and it's actually getting worse. My point still stands, why is it happening? In particular the social media addiction. No one really seems to know.

I had thought about living in Japan or SK at some point but now I'm not so sure.
I'll say it - Easy Asians are generally shallow people, NPC types, so they're into credentialing their vacations rather than simply telling people about them. They'd rather look at a photograph than relive the experience in their minds.
 

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I went on a long hiking trip this weekend and it was full of japanese women posing for pictures and selfies in front of the cool landscape. Their boyfriend was their photographer in every case too.

Japan and SK are extremely xenophobic societies, which probably explains a lot of it. The Japanese are also very subservient as a general rule, part of being an extremely authoritarian country, just without the marxist garbage that has infected every other country.

If you try to live in either country you're going to be a second class citizen. I've known guys who lived in japan, spoke excellent japanese, were japanese citizens but grew up outside the country, and they were still identified as Gaijin within the first few minutes of an interaction.
I've heard that Korea is xenophobic, but my understanding is that Japanese chicks like large-diametered white men. :cool:
 

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I've heard that Korea is xenophobic, but my understanding is that Japanese chicks like large-diametered white men. :cool:
I was stationed in Japan. You got to know the culture if you want to get anywhere with Japanese women
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I was stationed in Japan. You got to know the culture if you want to get anywhere with Japanese women
That makes me sad. I've fantasized about going to Japan and falling in love with a woman there.
 

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I would guess it's a combination of many things, some that I listed below.

- Mating has historically been arranged until the last 50 or so years.
- Culture is more traditional where there's less women in the work force. Often times, partners meet each other at work.
- Standard of living is very high, market is very competitive due to focus on education, and less suitable partners that can sustain a family, thus decreasing the attractive of supply side on the male partner side for women.
- Small countries cramming people into a small land mass, making it difficult for the country to expand outward, thus must go upward. Limiting economic growth activities and income, thus requiring for highly skilled labor, increasing standard of living.
- Passiveness of the region culturally (less prone to war, maybe outside of Japan), men and women are more passive, crime rate is extremely low, and women being approached by men are also low. Hence when non locals, like americans/europeans go over and talk to a girl they find attractive, that is likely the first time in that woman's life that has happened (depending on the attractiveness).
- due to lacking amount of land to expand, real estate is ridiculously expensive

Basically, they are overworked, have a higher standard of living than 3rd world but are still poor, can't afford homes or to start a family, making many men depressed and not suitable mates, and making it difficult for women to find partners as well.
 

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I would love to go there and study ninjutsu not to get women. Japan has superior martial arts but not sure how they view a westerner learning it
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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