"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What the heck happened, where'd i go wrong?

gimmeyofonenumba

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Ok heres the whole pan of things:

met this chick back home at a bar, turns out she goes to the same uni. that i have now transferred too. So its a big plus for rapport. I get up here, call her once or twice, eventually we get out. We went for dinner, we both paid our share, conversation WAS REALLY good, lots of kino, interesting,intelligent,etc. We came back to my place cause she wanted me to burn one of my cd's.(roomates were here, couldnt really get into that mode). I knocked on her a lil, and was funny too, and c&f. Everything was going really smooth, except we didnt do anything physical.

Now...We talked like 2 days later, i called, she wanted to meet up but i couldnt, and she was going back home for the weekend.

THAT WAS IT. Its been over a week and i havent spoke to her, I've tried calling, no answer. WTF, even if i made mistakes on the date, things went so well, it shouldnt be this bad. What happened, this chick must've had a bf?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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gimmeyofonenumba said:
Ok heres the whole pan of things:

met this chick back home at a bar, turns out she goes to the same uni. that i have now transferred too. So its a big plus for rapport. I get up here, call her once or twice, eventually we get out. We went for dinner, we both paid our share, conversation WAS REALLY good, lots of kino, interesting,intelligent,etc. We came back to my place cause she wanted me to burn one of my cd's.(roomates were here, couldnt really get into that mode). I knocked on her a lil, and was funny too, and c&f. Everything was going really smooth, except we didnt do anything physical.

Now...We talked like 2 days later, i called, she wanted to meet up but i couldnt, and she was going back home for the weekend.

THAT WAS IT. Its been over a week and i havent spoke to her, I've tried calling, no answer. WTF, even if i made mistakes on the date, things went so well, it shouldnt be this bad. What happened, this chick must've had a bf?
Don't think to deeply into it, maybe she just didn't like your smell. Maybe she found you a little too ****y and funny (Thanks Dave). Who knows, but if you sit and dwell on it you're not going to be able to do what you should do... move on.

-Al
 

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Most likely what happened is she lost interest after she wanted to meet up with you. You started off strong, but you couldn't finish the deal. She gave yo another chance by wanting to meet up with you the second time, which didn't happen.

If you're not moving forward with a girl, you're going backwards. Who knows, she could've met another guy in that time period. That's why I think men should be more aggressive once she's attracted and try to seal the deal.
 

gimmeyofonenumba

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ya ive still managed to move on, im still approaching chicks, but this one will baffle me. I'll give her another call or two then i'll have to move on.
 
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