"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What the **** happened?

NeedToImprove

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met this girl in the internet (msn), we exchanged pics, we chatted for some time and eventually we set up a date.everything was fine, we went to the movies, dinner (split bills) and in the cinema we kissed a lot (lots of kino too), i took her home all went well...

Until 2 days later, she stopped calling, messaging, she was always busy in the msn messenger and i needed to force her talking to me... sent her 3 messages yesterday to the cell phone and even called her, she said she didnt get any calls or messages, this isnt normal, she didnt answer the phone but the calls were there for her to check. The strangest thing is 3 hours later " good morning cutie, whats up? you havent said anything in days, i dont understand you you know?say something when u can, kisses" - she sent me this message to the phone.

One thing i notice is the only way to make her talk to me is to show her that's not acting ok with me, that she is different from what she was when we met.

do i sense she thought she's into me but someone or something made her change her mind?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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you waited two days and called 3 or 4 times in that span? if you've read anything on this site you know better than that.

she probably got your message but you are fun for her to play with because you buy it hook line and sinker.

if you are going to keep with this girl then cut down your dependence on her for happiness. This will result in you calling her less and ultimately behaving correctly.
 

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i didnt call her you got me wrong mate, i tried to talk to her in msn, i only called her yesterday morning to know what was wrong with her. after the date she told she enjoyed a lot being with me, she enjoyed my kisses, my kino, that im tender and she was thinking about dating me but that we had to talk more deeply about the subject.
 

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Maybe she is busy with someone else? If she likes you she'll contact you - forcing it has the opposite effect. I personally think this fish has got away.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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