"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Long story short I hooked up with some girl at club last weekend, called sunday asked if she wanted to do something wed night (tonight) and when she agreed told her i'd call her last night to discuss wat to do.

Now I call last night about 915 and she answers and talks for a min but asks to call me back because she's meeting her mom. So I say no prob and she never calls me back and hasn't today. Now I know many of you will say she has low IL so just next it, but I think it's worth at least calling one more time. I think there is decent IL since I left her a message Sunday and she returned my call and remembered me from the club and sounded happy on fone.

So what should I say today? Do I even bring up her not callin me bak and just act like we still have plans to chill tonite? Should I text her sayin wasup?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Huge mistake not already telling her what the plans are the first time you called. You had a chance to set the date up and failed.

Then you left the ball in her court to call back, never do that. They never call.

You can call again why not, but don't be surprised if it doesn't work out.
 
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Vlad the Impaler said:
Huge mistake not already telling her what the plans are the first time you called. You had a chance to set the date up then and failed.

Then you left the ball in her court to call back, never do that. They never call.
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No I told her I would call her back last night to decide wha to do which I did. The problem is she asked to call me back after that and didn't. You're right I should have set it up when first talking, but reflecting on that will get me nowhere, i've learned for next time. Now what should I say when I call her and try to get her out tonite?
 
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TheBaconator said:
No I told her I would call her back last night to decide wha to do which I did. The problem is she asked to call me back after that and didn't. You're right I should have set it up when first talking, but reflecting on that will get me nowhere, i've learned for next time. Now what should I say when I call her and try to get her out tonite?
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I wouldn't even mention it. Just do what you should have done the first time and see if she agrees to meet again.
 
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TheBaconator said:
Long story short I hooked up with some girl at club last weekend, called sunday asked if she wanted to do something wed night (tonight) and when she agreed told her i'd call her last night to discuss wat to do.

Now I call last night about 915 and she answers and talks for a min but asks to call me back because she's meeting her mom. So I say no prob and she never calls me back and hasn't today. Now I know many of you will say she has low IL so just next it, but I think it's worth at least calling one more time. I think there is decent IL since I left her a message Sunday and she returned my call and remembered me from the club and sounded happy on fone.

So what should I say today? Do I even bring up her not callin me bak and just act like we still have plans to chill tonite? Should I text her sayin wasup?
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You clearly haven't read the Don Juan Bible. Read it.

Sosuave is not here to hold your hand in the journey that will be your love life. When you're unsure, you cannot run to Sosuave and get the perfect line that will make her spread her legs for you. If you actually understand the materials here, then you'll know what to do.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I wouldn't call her back yet. Go out and do something else tonight, wait a day or two then if she hasn't called you can call her if you still want to.
 
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