"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What should I do?

PhillyBobThorton

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Ok, there's this girl and we've been going out for almost two months now. About 2 weeks into our relationship, she had some problems and couldn't come back to school and won't be back until next year. She lives about a 20 minute drive away and I don't have my license yet, and she doesn't have hers either, so we haven't done anything but go out on a few dates. She just started playing softball and the field isn't far away, which means I'll get to see her about once a week.

Well her first game was yeseterday and my brother's girlfriend plays on the same team as my girlfriend. My girlfriend had a doctor's appointment and then she was going straight to her game. But it was raining that morning and I had asked my brother's girlfriend if the game was cancelled or not. She told me it was and I didn't get to see my girlfriend, nor talk to her that day. Well today, I was talking to her and she acted like something was wrong. She wasn't saying much and just wasn't herself. So my question is what approach should I take with this? I don't want to break it off with her and I don't want her to break it off with me either. This is about the only place I figured I could find some help..What do you guys think?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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penkitten

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maybe it has something to do with the dr appointment or maybe its whatever is keeping her from coming back to school or perhaps she is feeling under the weather.
just be yourself and play it cool. if you think something is wrong, ask her "is everything ok?"

i wouldnt throw the relationship away just yet.
 

elmo

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if she plays softball there is a high probablility that she is a member of the future lesbians' club. maybe that is why she is acting strange.

elmo's advice : wait until you can drive before you try getting a girl.
 
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