"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What should I do?

Tboneman

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I'm new here, but got a link from another board because I need help in getting someone to like me.
My problem is that I'm kinda shy, I don't know what to talk about when I'm with a woman I like, I have a sence of not wanting to get too close because I've been betrayed once, and I'm too nice. Last night after a band compitition I got a girl I used to like (until yesterday) her stuff and even found her a pen so she could get a phone number from another guy. What can I do?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Read the DJ Bible. Always do that before posting anything.
 

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Originally posted by Tboneman
Last night after a band compitition I got a girl I used to like (until yesterday) her stuff and even found her a pen so she could get a phone number from another guy. What can I do?
Why the hell would you do that?? Thats what you can do...never do that again...yep...thats a muy bueno start.
 

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Re: Re: What should I do?

Originally posted by oakraiderz2
Why the hell would you do that?? Thats what you can do...never do that again...yep...thats a muy bueno start.
That was the definition of being an AFC.
 

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Re: Re: Re: What should I do?

Originally posted by idiot_boyfriend
That was the definition of being an AFC.
Maybe...in my book its being a bish.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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just throw a book at the guy.

Grab the pen and write your phone number down on it.

wink at her and give her the piece of paper.

throw another book at the guy.

Throw VARIOUS.... no.... NUMEROUS... books

no seriously though it's pretty over with her...

Just start pissing on the floor and pretend you can swim in it.

Nah all that will get you assault charges, and will send you to the mental hopsital.... (Been there done that)

No dont' really take advice from me though... Just read the DJ bible.
 

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It was too late to do anything with her anyway, she didn't have any intrest in me.
 

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you have to start learing from somewhere i guess. take the adivce here, be humble and read the almighty bible Pooks Anti Dump machine would work for you, a guy that i gather is looking for a long term thing? yeah its in the bible, near the bottom.
 

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Ok, I DON'T want to go out with her anymore. I just want to really wanna know how to get SOME girl, ANY girl to like me. Sorry to seem like I'm yelling.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Originally posted by Tboneman
I just want to really wanna know how to get SOME girl, ANY girl to like me.
now that my friends... was...
desperation defined. what is your problem man? you need an ego booster or something? dont sit on your ass wating for someone to like you. PFFFFFFFT. jesus.
 
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