giovannikast
Don Juan
How can I invite her to a second date? She is a HB8, What should I do in the second date, I would like to read your opinions and advices, I really need your help, my friends.
Giovanni
Giovanni
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
What should I do if I couldn’t generate attraction in the first date?
- Thread starter giovannikast
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Here man lemme tell ya a million dollar tip that cannot fail you.. Put ur self in a girls body and think in her prospective.. : how would i want to be treated by a guy, how should the guy act like, what should the guy do ? nam sayin put urself in a girls body and prospective and think about what kind of guy would turn her on and turn into that guy it never fails me.. i dunno if u good enough 2 do dis though it requires some practice.
MacAvoy
Banned
Find a new plate to start spinning. There isn't only ONE HB8 in this world, there are millions of them, move on to the next one.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
Its not what you do in the second date, but what you do immediately after the first, if you weren't able to generate it during that time.
Forget about all this first, second, third date frame.
Why weren't you able to generate it to begin with? how do you know?
Do put yourself in her position, if you had a girl who was avg. looking, yet you weren't really into, but you didn't want to reject. That is probably what she is thinking.
I say cut your losses and as adviced above, go spin some plates.
Forget about all this first, second, third date frame.
Why weren't you able to generate it to begin with? how do you know?
Do put yourself in her position, if you had a girl who was avg. looking, yet you weren't really into, but you didn't want to reject. That is probably what she is thinking.
I say cut your losses and as adviced above, go spin some plates.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
This is tough and I am in the same position. On my date, I had some great attraction off the bat but couldn't really maintain it due to nerves.
The only thing I can think of here is to avoid coming off as needy or highly interested. I.E. don't contact her the night of the date or ask for date number 2 within the next couple of days.
I would probably delay date 2 a little bit (week and a half- two weeks), but still pursue it. Maybe spin a plate in the meantime if you can. That approach could help you put things in perespective while increasing her interest slightly.
She could be willing to give it another chance, especially if she was attracted to you physically. She'll probably be less eager to set plans with you this time around, and you'll need to work around her schedule a little more. In other words, you aren't her first priority. Doesn't mean that she wouldn't want another date eventually though.
I could be way off here, this is just based on my experience and insight.
The only thing I can think of here is to avoid coming off as needy or highly interested. I.E. don't contact her the night of the date or ask for date number 2 within the next couple of days.
I would probably delay date 2 a little bit (week and a half- two weeks), but still pursue it. Maybe spin a plate in the meantime if you can. That approach could help you put things in perespective while increasing her interest slightly.
She could be willing to give it another chance, especially if she was attracted to you physically. She'll probably be less eager to set plans with you this time around, and you'll need to work around her schedule a little more. In other words, you aren't her first priority. Doesn't mean that she wouldn't want another date eventually though.
I could be way off here, this is just based on my experience and insight.
If you feel as though she didn't have high interest in you, here's my opinion on what you should do. BE PATIENT... Don't call her right after the 1st date, send her a text such as "how's your day going?" maybe 3 days later and keep the convo very short - if she replies "great", just leave it at that, no more attention (if she doesn't reply, I believe you're out the door).Then about a week after the 1st date (approx. 3 days after the text), call her to setup a 2nd date. The text shows that you're still interested in her, yet the time span shows that you're not desperate to see her. As she warms up to you, once a week of seeing her is plenty for the first couple of months. The key to getting her attention is PATIENCE - that is assuming you're doing everything else right.