giovannikast
Don Juan
How can I invite her to a second date? She is a HB8, What should I do in the second date, I would like to read your opinions and advices, I really need your help, my friends.
Giovanni
Giovanni
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
What should I do if I couldn’t generate attraction in the first date?
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Here man lemme tell ya a million dollar tip that cannot fail you.. Put ur self in a girls body and think in her prospective.. : how would i want to be treated by a guy, how should the guy act like, what should the guy do ? nam sayin put urself in a girls body and prospective and think about what kind of guy would turn her on and turn into that guy it never fails me.. i dunno if u good enough 2 do dis though it requires some practice.
MacAvoy
Banned
Find a new plate to start spinning. There isn't only ONE HB8 in this world, there are millions of them, move on to the next one.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
Its not what you do in the second date, but what you do immediately after the first, if you weren't able to generate it during that time.
Forget about all this first, second, third date frame.
Why weren't you able to generate it to begin with? how do you know?
Do put yourself in her position, if you had a girl who was avg. looking, yet you weren't really into, but you didn't want to reject. That is probably what she is thinking.
I say cut your losses and as adviced above, go spin some plates.
Forget about all this first, second, third date frame.
Why weren't you able to generate it to begin with? how do you know?
Do put yourself in her position, if you had a girl who was avg. looking, yet you weren't really into, but you didn't want to reject. That is probably what she is thinking.
I say cut your losses and as adviced above, go spin some plates.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
This is tough and I am in the same position. On my date, I had some great attraction off the bat but couldn't really maintain it due to nerves.
The only thing I can think of here is to avoid coming off as needy or highly interested. I.E. don't contact her the night of the date or ask for date number 2 within the next couple of days.
I would probably delay date 2 a little bit (week and a half- two weeks), but still pursue it. Maybe spin a plate in the meantime if you can. That approach could help you put things in perespective while increasing her interest slightly.
She could be willing to give it another chance, especially if she was attracted to you physically. She'll probably be less eager to set plans with you this time around, and you'll need to work around her schedule a little more. In other words, you aren't her first priority. Doesn't mean that she wouldn't want another date eventually though.
I could be way off here, this is just based on my experience and insight.
The only thing I can think of here is to avoid coming off as needy or highly interested. I.E. don't contact her the night of the date or ask for date number 2 within the next couple of days.
I would probably delay date 2 a little bit (week and a half- two weeks), but still pursue it. Maybe spin a plate in the meantime if you can. That approach could help you put things in perespective while increasing her interest slightly.
She could be willing to give it another chance, especially if she was attracted to you physically. She'll probably be less eager to set plans with you this time around, and you'll need to work around her schedule a little more. In other words, you aren't her first priority. Doesn't mean that she wouldn't want another date eventually though.
I could be way off here, this is just based on my experience and insight.
If you feel as though she didn't have high interest in you, here's my opinion on what you should do. BE PATIENT... Don't call her right after the 1st date, send her a text such as "how's your day going?" maybe 3 days later and keep the convo very short - if she replies "great", just leave it at that, no more attention (if she doesn't reply, I believe you're out the door).Then about a week after the 1st date (approx. 3 days after the text), call her to setup a 2nd date. The text shows that you're still interested in her, yet the time span shows that you're not desperate to see her. As she warms up to you, once a week of seeing her is plenty for the first couple of months. The key to getting her attention is PATIENCE - that is assuming you're doing everything else right.