giovannikast
Don Juan
How can I invite her to a second date? She is a HB8, What should I do in the second date, I would like to read your opinions and advices, I really need your help, my friends.
Giovanni
Giovanni
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
What should I do if I couldn’t generate attraction in the first date?
- Thread starter giovannikast
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Here man lemme tell ya a million dollar tip that cannot fail you.. Put ur self in a girls body and think in her prospective.. : how would i want to be treated by a guy, how should the guy act like, what should the guy do ? nam sayin put urself in a girls body and prospective and think about what kind of guy would turn her on and turn into that guy it never fails me.. i dunno if u good enough 2 do dis though it requires some practice.
MacAvoy
Banned
Find a new plate to start spinning. There isn't only ONE HB8 in this world, there are millions of them, move on to the next one.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
Its not what you do in the second date, but what you do immediately after the first, if you weren't able to generate it during that time.
Forget about all this first, second, third date frame.
Why weren't you able to generate it to begin with? how do you know?
Do put yourself in her position, if you had a girl who was avg. looking, yet you weren't really into, but you didn't want to reject. That is probably what she is thinking.
I say cut your losses and as adviced above, go spin some plates.
Forget about all this first, second, third date frame.
Why weren't you able to generate it to begin with? how do you know?
Do put yourself in her position, if you had a girl who was avg. looking, yet you weren't really into, but you didn't want to reject. That is probably what she is thinking.
I say cut your losses and as adviced above, go spin some plates.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
This is tough and I am in the same position. On my date, I had some great attraction off the bat but couldn't really maintain it due to nerves.
The only thing I can think of here is to avoid coming off as needy or highly interested. I.E. don't contact her the night of the date or ask for date number 2 within the next couple of days.
I would probably delay date 2 a little bit (week and a half- two weeks), but still pursue it. Maybe spin a plate in the meantime if you can. That approach could help you put things in perespective while increasing her interest slightly.
She could be willing to give it another chance, especially if she was attracted to you physically. She'll probably be less eager to set plans with you this time around, and you'll need to work around her schedule a little more. In other words, you aren't her first priority. Doesn't mean that she wouldn't want another date eventually though.
I could be way off here, this is just based on my experience and insight.
The only thing I can think of here is to avoid coming off as needy or highly interested. I.E. don't contact her the night of the date or ask for date number 2 within the next couple of days.
I would probably delay date 2 a little bit (week and a half- two weeks), but still pursue it. Maybe spin a plate in the meantime if you can. That approach could help you put things in perespective while increasing her interest slightly.
She could be willing to give it another chance, especially if she was attracted to you physically. She'll probably be less eager to set plans with you this time around, and you'll need to work around her schedule a little more. In other words, you aren't her first priority. Doesn't mean that she wouldn't want another date eventually though.
I could be way off here, this is just based on my experience and insight.
If you feel as though she didn't have high interest in you, here's my opinion on what you should do. BE PATIENT... Don't call her right after the 1st date, send her a text such as "how's your day going?" maybe 3 days later and keep the convo very short - if she replies "great", just leave it at that, no more attention (if she doesn't reply, I believe you're out the door).Then about a week after the 1st date (approx. 3 days after the text), call her to setup a 2nd date. The text shows that you're still interested in her, yet the time span shows that you're not desperate to see her. As she warms up to you, once a week of seeing her is plenty for the first couple of months. The key to getting her attention is PATIENCE - that is assuming you're doing everything else right.