giovannikast
Don Juan
How can I invite her to a second date? She is a HB8, What should I do in the second date, I would like to read your opinions and advices, I really need your help, my friends.
Giovanni
Giovanni
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
What should I do if I couldn’t generate attraction in the first date?
- Thread starter giovannikast
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Here man lemme tell ya a million dollar tip that cannot fail you.. Put ur self in a girls body and think in her prospective.. : how would i want to be treated by a guy, how should the guy act like, what should the guy do ? nam sayin put urself in a girls body and prospective and think about what kind of guy would turn her on and turn into that guy it never fails me.. i dunno if u good enough 2 do dis though it requires some practice.
MacAvoy
Banned
Find a new plate to start spinning. There isn't only ONE HB8 in this world, there are millions of them, move on to the next one.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
Its not what you do in the second date, but what you do immediately after the first, if you weren't able to generate it during that time.
Forget about all this first, second, third date frame.
Why weren't you able to generate it to begin with? how do you know?
Do put yourself in her position, if you had a girl who was avg. looking, yet you weren't really into, but you didn't want to reject. That is probably what she is thinking.
I say cut your losses and as adviced above, go spin some plates.
Forget about all this first, second, third date frame.
Why weren't you able to generate it to begin with? how do you know?
Do put yourself in her position, if you had a girl who was avg. looking, yet you weren't really into, but you didn't want to reject. That is probably what she is thinking.
I say cut your losses and as adviced above, go spin some plates.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
This is tough and I am in the same position. On my date, I had some great attraction off the bat but couldn't really maintain it due to nerves.
The only thing I can think of here is to avoid coming off as needy or highly interested. I.E. don't contact her the night of the date or ask for date number 2 within the next couple of days.
I would probably delay date 2 a little bit (week and a half- two weeks), but still pursue it. Maybe spin a plate in the meantime if you can. That approach could help you put things in perespective while increasing her interest slightly.
She could be willing to give it another chance, especially if she was attracted to you physically. She'll probably be less eager to set plans with you this time around, and you'll need to work around her schedule a little more. In other words, you aren't her first priority. Doesn't mean that she wouldn't want another date eventually though.
I could be way off here, this is just based on my experience and insight.
The only thing I can think of here is to avoid coming off as needy or highly interested. I.E. don't contact her the night of the date or ask for date number 2 within the next couple of days.
I would probably delay date 2 a little bit (week and a half- two weeks), but still pursue it. Maybe spin a plate in the meantime if you can. That approach could help you put things in perespective while increasing her interest slightly.
She could be willing to give it another chance, especially if she was attracted to you physically. She'll probably be less eager to set plans with you this time around, and you'll need to work around her schedule a little more. In other words, you aren't her first priority. Doesn't mean that she wouldn't want another date eventually though.
I could be way off here, this is just based on my experience and insight.
If you feel as though she didn't have high interest in you, here's my opinion on what you should do. BE PATIENT... Don't call her right after the 1st date, send her a text such as "how's your day going?" maybe 3 days later and keep the convo very short - if she replies "great", just leave it at that, no more attention (if she doesn't reply, I believe you're out the door).Then about a week after the 1st date (approx. 3 days after the text), call her to setup a 2nd date. The text shows that you're still interested in her, yet the time span shows that you're not desperate to see her. As she warms up to you, once a week of seeing her is plenty for the first couple of months. The key to getting her attention is PATIENCE - that is assuming you're doing everything else right.