"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What should I do here?(quick advice homie~)

dcfball

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Ok quick background..last spring... before i found sites like this.. I dated a girl from class for about 2 months.. I was total afc, but she was into me. Anyways..semester ends.. she goes to san diego with best friend(female), comes back.. we talk twice on the phone, I slip something about liking her and she kinda flips. I feel the power slip from my hands.. anyways no need to mention she blew me off shortly after... anyways...

she is in my class this spring. still smokin. no real other prospects in the class that I would **** either, EXCEPT for this smokin petite black girl who was in one of my classes last semester, who although i had one kinda insta date with last fall i doubt there would be anything building there to really make my ex jealous so who cares..

anyways i didnt get a chance to talk to her when i saw her she just kinda walked by smiled and said hi(she had to of noticed me in class bc i talked like 5 times to the teacher about the subject). i was kinda shocked and just walked out the other way looking over my shoulder. i think it suprised her i didnt chase after.

anyways thought of talking to her tommorrow very nonchalant. as in is this seat taken..? *cute grin* and just talk to her like an old friend.

bad idea? good idea? couldnt hurt obviously and this is definetly NOT one-itis(i'm actually fukcing a girl from her HS that was in our class last spring but i didnt sarge until i saw her at the mall one day...)


just looking for opinions/advice bros!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Talk to her, but only nonchalantly. Do not pursue her -if she liked you she would have taken your statement of attraction last semester seriously!

Have some dignity. Don't give her the satisfaction to deny you twice!
 

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yup. agreed.
just play it cool. see what kind of vibes you are getting.
If the vibes are good, then do a # close.

but protect your dignity at all cost.

peace

-iceH
 

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ha she wasnt even in class, i saw her about 10 mins after class ended talking to some other girls.... was walking by, barely saw her in my periphial and didnt even look at her. i know she saw me bc i was right past her face. i wonder if she dropped to avoid drama? =p
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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