"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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What should be my goal

spesmilitis

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This summer will be a great time for me to bulk up. I WONT be taking BJJ to focus on lifting. I will be also able to eat and sleep at optimal ammounts also. This period will be for about 3 monthes.

What time of weight gain should I expect. I know this will vary a lot from person to person, but just throw some numbers out there so I have an idea what to aim for.
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Dude shot for whatever you want. Some go for looks,some go for mass and some just lift for fun,shot for whatever pleases you.
 

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You will be taking BJJ to focus on lifting? That makes no sense.
 

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Shoot for 1-2lbs per week. 2 will be much harder, but just shoot for the gaining part. None of this I gained 6lbs in one week stuff either, and dont believe anyone who tells you that stuff or things that claim that stuff.

Even at 4lbs per month, that's 12lbs in 3 months which isn't bad at all. Add a hair more and you could do 15lbs or so.

JUST MAKE SURE YOU EAT! This is critical.
 

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spes, i assume you mean you will be taking a break from BJJ?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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spesmilitis said:
This summer will be a great time for me to bulk up. I will be taking BJJ to focus on lifting. I will be also able to eat and sleep at optimal ammounts also. This period will be for about 3 monthes.

What time of weight gain should I expect. I know this will vary a lot from person to person, but just throw some numbers out there so I have an idea what to aim for.
I know people who gained 50 pounds in a year. Depends on how much effort you put into it.
 

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stronglifts said:
I know people who gained 50 pounds in a year. Depends on how much effort you put into it.
Be real,nowhere near 50 lbs. of that is muscle.
 

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Of course not. Nowhere near 50lbs. of that is fat. What's your point?
Good comeback. Sorry Blink, not all of us jerk off to Brad Pitt's 6-pack.

Ive gained over 50lbs, surely not all of it muscle, but it looks fine to me. If I listened to your advice I'd be eating steamed broccoli for dinner and gaining 0.25lbs of pure muscle per month.

Spes, if you eat 5-6x meals/day, occasional fast food, you should gain quickly, as 1.5lbs+/week. I gained muscle very slowly until I stopped boxing, then it came very quickly. Just make sure to do heavy weights with compounds lifts. Forget conditioning exercises for now, go for pure strength and eat big.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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6-heads lewis said:
Good comeback. Sorry Blink, not all of us jerk off to Brad Pitt's 6-pack.

Ive gained over 50lbs, surely not all of it muscle, but it looks fine to me. If I listened to your advice I'd be eating steamed broccoli for dinner and gaining 0.25lbs of pure muscle per month.

Spes, if you eat 5-6x meals/day, occasional fast food, you should gain quickly, as 1.5lbs+/week. I gained muscle very slowly until I stopped boxing, then it came very quickly. Just make sure to do heavy weights with compounds lifts. Forget conditioning exercises for now, go for pure strength and eat big.
I eat steamed broccoli for dinner. What's your point?

Seriously: the most anabolic food is Milk. I know people who drank 2 gallons milk a day. Try it if you don't believe it.
 

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When I said "If I listened to your advice", I was referring to blinkwatt. My point about eating brocolli is you can't be obsessesive about BF% and hope to make maximal muscle gains. This leads to 140lb beginners following strict caloric diets and making no progress.

Ive read that milk isn't healthy for humans, there was a big debate on it here a while back. I'm lactose intolerant and when I factor in the cost of lactaid its not worth it to me. Even with the pills, I still get bloated and gassy.
 

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Do you guys gain gradually over a period, like 1 lbs a week. Or don't gain for 3 weeks, but gain 4 lbs on the fourth week?
 

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Of course not. Nowhere near 50lbs. of that is fat. What's your point?
Actually,yes it is to be honest. If it's not muscle then what is it? Go get your bodyfat tested and I'm sure you will see what I'm talking about. There is nothing wrong with gaining fat,if you going for mass instead of muscle,just make sure you don't mix the two up.
 

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Good comeback. Sorry Blink, not all of us jerk off to Brad Pitt's 6-pack.

First off,I don't.

Ive gained over 50lbs, surely not all of it muscle, but it looks fine to me.

Well then that's all that matters.

If I listened to your advice I'd be eating steamed broccoli for dinner and gaining 0.25lbs of pure muscle per month.

I don't eat vegetables,not intentionally,but that's just how I eat.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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