"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What should be my goal

spesmilitis

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This summer will be a great time for me to bulk up. I WONT be taking BJJ to focus on lifting. I will be also able to eat and sleep at optimal ammounts also. This period will be for about 3 monthes.

What time of weight gain should I expect. I know this will vary a lot from person to person, but just throw some numbers out there so I have an idea what to aim for.
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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blinkwatt

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Dude shot for whatever you want. Some go for looks,some go for mass and some just lift for fun,shot for whatever pleases you.
 

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You will be taking BJJ to focus on lifting? That makes no sense.
 

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Shoot for 1-2lbs per week. 2 will be much harder, but just shoot for the gaining part. None of this I gained 6lbs in one week stuff either, and dont believe anyone who tells you that stuff or things that claim that stuff.

Even at 4lbs per month, that's 12lbs in 3 months which isn't bad at all. Add a hair more and you could do 15lbs or so.

JUST MAKE SURE YOU EAT! This is critical.
 

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spes, i assume you mean you will be taking a break from BJJ?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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spesmilitis said:
This summer will be a great time for me to bulk up. I will be taking BJJ to focus on lifting. I will be also able to eat and sleep at optimal ammounts also. This period will be for about 3 monthes.

What time of weight gain should I expect. I know this will vary a lot from person to person, but just throw some numbers out there so I have an idea what to aim for.
I know people who gained 50 pounds in a year. Depends on how much effort you put into it.
 

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stronglifts said:
I know people who gained 50 pounds in a year. Depends on how much effort you put into it.
Be real,nowhere near 50 lbs. of that is muscle.
 

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Of course not. Nowhere near 50lbs. of that is fat. What's your point?
Good comeback. Sorry Blink, not all of us jerk off to Brad Pitt's 6-pack.

Ive gained over 50lbs, surely not all of it muscle, but it looks fine to me. If I listened to your advice I'd be eating steamed broccoli for dinner and gaining 0.25lbs of pure muscle per month.

Spes, if you eat 5-6x meals/day, occasional fast food, you should gain quickly, as 1.5lbs+/week. I gained muscle very slowly until I stopped boxing, then it came very quickly. Just make sure to do heavy weights with compounds lifts. Forget conditioning exercises for now, go for pure strength and eat big.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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6-heads lewis said:
Good comeback. Sorry Blink, not all of us jerk off to Brad Pitt's 6-pack.

Ive gained over 50lbs, surely not all of it muscle, but it looks fine to me. If I listened to your advice I'd be eating steamed broccoli for dinner and gaining 0.25lbs of pure muscle per month.

Spes, if you eat 5-6x meals/day, occasional fast food, you should gain quickly, as 1.5lbs+/week. I gained muscle very slowly until I stopped boxing, then it came very quickly. Just make sure to do heavy weights with compounds lifts. Forget conditioning exercises for now, go for pure strength and eat big.
I eat steamed broccoli for dinner. What's your point?

Seriously: the most anabolic food is Milk. I know people who drank 2 gallons milk a day. Try it if you don't believe it.
 

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When I said "If I listened to your advice", I was referring to blinkwatt. My point about eating brocolli is you can't be obsessesive about BF% and hope to make maximal muscle gains. This leads to 140lb beginners following strict caloric diets and making no progress.

Ive read that milk isn't healthy for humans, there was a big debate on it here a while back. I'm lactose intolerant and when I factor in the cost of lactaid its not worth it to me. Even with the pills, I still get bloated and gassy.
 

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Do you guys gain gradually over a period, like 1 lbs a week. Or don't gain for 3 weeks, but gain 4 lbs on the fourth week?
 

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stronglifts said:
Of course not. Nowhere near 50lbs. of that is fat. What's your point?
Actually,yes it is to be honest. If it's not muscle then what is it? Go get your bodyfat tested and I'm sure you will see what I'm talking about. There is nothing wrong with gaining fat,if you going for mass instead of muscle,just make sure you don't mix the two up.
 

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Good comeback. Sorry Blink, not all of us jerk off to Brad Pitt's 6-pack.

First off,I don't.

Ive gained over 50lbs, surely not all of it muscle, but it looks fine to me.

Well then that's all that matters.

If I listened to your advice I'd be eating steamed broccoli for dinner and gaining 0.25lbs of pure muscle per month.

I don't eat vegetables,not intentionally,but that's just how I eat.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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