davidsonj73
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Also, how much can one charge for how many hours of lessons?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
The whole PUA thing seems to be fading. Few men now are interested in doing a lot of approaching in the real world, as compared to the PUAs of the late 1990s - mid 2010s era. Interest in PUA likely peaked somewhere in the 2000s.The golden age might have gone now since nobody really believes in 'PUA' anymore
the main change is that the idea of 'game' (past basic social skills) just isn't something anyone really believes in any more. And tbh, rightly so!The whole PUA thing seems to be fading. Few men now are interesting in doing a lot of approaching in the real world, as compared to the PUAs of the late 1990s - mid 2010s era. Interest in PUA likely peaked somewhere in the 2000s.
Imo, it peaked in late 00s - early 10s. RSDs golden years were around this time. I still remember Julien Blancs infield footage around this time, 10-14, he was a literal pickup God, i can find his old compilation footage if anyone wants. It was truly incredible, and a total paradigm shift. Unfortunately, the SJW/feminists ramped up by the mid 10s and he was cancelled, which led to the downfall of RSD and PUA in general.The whole PUA thing seems to be fading. Few men now are interested in doing a lot of approaching in the real world, as compared to the PUAs of the late 1990s - mid 2010s era. Interest in PUA likely peaked somewhere in the 2000s.
A lot of people like the idea of sitting at home and swiping, even though swipe apps tend to produce poor outcomes for most men. A lot of men find it convenient to sit at home instead of getting dressed up and going out into the real world. This was something many men were feeling in the 2010s even before the pandemic affected real world interactions for about 2 years in the early 2020s.
Social media DMing is also a difficult path.
I determined my best path involved real world approaching as compared to app swiping or sending DMs on Instagram.