Piers Nivens
Don Juan
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I usually see a tie between doctors and police officers.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
bradd80 said:howard, I'd have to disagree with you on this on as I'm a lawyer and I find plenty of time to bang hot bishes. Mind you, I'm also tall, fit, and reasonably good looking so maybe this plays a part. But the hours issue definitely isn't a problem, where there's a will there's a way. If nothing else, there's always Friday and Saturday nights plus I'm always getting hooked up through friends and meeting women through social and networking events. Being a doctor or lawyer is definitely a plus, but I know lots of doctors and lawyers who are not that good looking or not very social and they're perpetually single so I think things like looks, fitness, dressing well, and having game count for a lot no matter what profession you're in.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Espi said:We have a guy here on SS who claims to be a police officer so maybe he'll weigh in on the discussion.
I think being a cop would draw a "love it or hate it" kind of deal from women.
I've personally had discussions with a few women who were married to policemen and they related the profession negatively--mainly due to the stress.
I'm told all the time that I look like a cop/military, and that's why several women said that they were attracted to me. That's the positive of being a policeman, I guess--the look, the authoritative personality, the ability to handle oneself in stressful situations, etc. It definitely takes a strong personality to be a police officer. I can see how woman would be attracted to that.